(Closed) My crazy aunt and my great-grandmother's ring!!! RANT!

posted 6 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Is there anyway you can ask her to give you the ring maybe a week before the wedding? That way she gets to hold onto it longer (which is what it seems she wants) and you know you will have it for your wedding.  I would explain to her that NOT having it before the wedding stresses you out a lot and even getting it the week of the wedding would put your mind at ease.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@jordankaine:  

Can you suggest a more neutral place like a bank deposit box?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Does she live close enough that you could assign someone ( mom, bridesmaid groomsman, other relative…) the task of going to her house a few hours before the wedding to pick it up and bring it to you?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Do you have something else that’s old that you could use as a possible back up, in case she doesn’t bring the ring?  I know it wouldn’t have the same sentimental value, but if it’s stressing you out that much, and she’s not willing to budge on giving it to you early…

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would just have someone responsible to call & remind her the day of, and have a back up just in case. I honestly don’t think she’s being that unreasonable. She agreed to let you wear it the day of, which she didn’t have to do, she’s just worried about something very sentimental getting lost. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Yes – if it’s important enough to her that she worries about it when it’s out of her custody, I doubt she’ll forget about it for the wedding. That’s probably the only thing she’ll think about all that day, in fact! Sorry to say, but she’ll probably spend most of the day obsessing about it until it’s returned to her care … it probably means a lot to her that she’s the one “in charge” of keeping this special family heirloom (even though it might be a self-appointed role). The best thing for you to do is roll with it and try not to let it be a source of additional stress.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I can understand being stressed out about the possibility of her forgetting it! Maybe it would help to assign the “job” of calling her to a family member (like your mom, a cousin, whoever) so that she gets reminded?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know it’s stressful but it sounds like you have to let it go for now.  Perhaps assign a relative to be “on her” the week of your wedding to reminder her not to forget the ring since it would crush you if you don’t get to wear it on your big day. 

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