- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
It’s over 🙁 and as hectic and crazy as it was, I am pretty sad that the day went by so fast.
Warning, kind of long.
Months before the wedding my grandma tried to take control and was telling me that I need at least 14 different bridesmaids. That bridesmaids dresses all have to be the same type, color, material and all long. That I need to take girls that I don’t even know just because my family knew them and that I needed to send out invitations to people I barely knew!
2 weeks before the wedding, my Maid/Matron of Honor has decided that it was time to throw me a bridal shower. Mind you, I been hinting and poking her for about three months before to get on it. She leaves to florida a month before the wedding for vacation and when she comes back, she only contacts my bridesmaids through facebook one week before the shower. One of the bridesmaids works and is also a full time mother, so she didn’t really have time to keep checking her facebook. Mind you, I gave her all of the girls numbers MONTHS before. So the girl went ahead and made plans with her boyfriend and the kids to go see fireworks on Sat because he works long hours and she does not get to see him much. I didn’t know anything about this until everything blew apart and my Maid/Matron of Honor got into a fight with my bridesmaids because they refused to give up their plans to work with her when she tells them a little too late. The other girl was ready all day, but my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t contact her until it was way too late and the girl had work in the morning, and the Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to do the shower at 11 at night. Of course things got even worse when one of the girls boyfriends got involved because he was tired of watching his girlfriend try to stay calm because she no longer knew how to talk to my Maid/Matron of Honor ( who is also my sister btw)
I was told my Maid/Matron of Honor was acting like this was her wedding and I did not realize just how much till a few days later.
Days before the Wedding was bad enough, I started school, we got spat at by a hurricane and I couldn’t get people on the same page. The Wedding was to be 4 hours away from where I live, so my family had to do some traveling. I get a phone call from my mother and grandma attacking me that I did not invite my cousins grandma, so she was refusing to come because I did not want her there. Wait.. WHAT?! MIND YOU, I sent everyone an invitation to each FAMILY with the invitation and envelope in attention to So and So FAMILY. I didn’t exclude anyone! No one else had this problem, no one else called me to ask me if so and so was invited, hell they even bought their kids and I mentioned nothing about them (they were infact welcomed). So as I holding my ground trying to explain that I did send them an invitation for EVERYONE, that I didn’t just single people out, I find out that the reason this woman is refusing to come is because I did not verbally and personally invite her ass to the wedding. I am sorry if I am being mean about this, but 3 days before my wedding and a woman that is a grandma to my cousins who i barely see is throwing a fit like I forgot to invite the Queen was kind of disgusting and disrespectful to me. So instead of asking me nicely, my grandma and mom decided to chew me out about this and I stood my ground and told them ‘the invitation was for all, if she feels like she doesn’t want to come fine but I got a hell of a lot more to worry about than this’.
A few days after that, my mom comes to me saying that my grandma did not get an invite (mind you, I gave it to her months in advance with other invites that she forced me to write out to people I barely knew) and that she thinks that now she isn’t invited, that I do not want her to come. This time I was livid, that my own grandma would put me threw this after the other womans drama – who I found out later that had no plans on coming anyway so was looking for excuses… disgusting.
Wedding day comes and it’s more hecting than ever. Suddenly my hair dresser had other peoples hair she needed to do that wasn’t bridesmaid because my aunt decided she didn’t want to go to a salon. This was in someone elses property on site so we were told to come prepped to do updoes. She must not have understood me that I told her three times 3 days before the wedding that the hair dresser was not going to be washing her hair in someone elses house. She comes in still thinking she does and after she does not get what she wants, she proceeds to slam the hair dresser and my moms hair in front of me for like 30 min in my language. To top it off I am already stressed because my linen company did not deliver the napkins for the head table or they got them in the wrong color and it was too late for them to come get them. The night before I injured my finger and my cousin showed up wait to late and missed rehersal dinner. My junior bridesmaid was told by her family that she wasn’t a bridesmaid so they bought her the wrong color and she refused to smile the entire time for any of the pictures and was pouty all wedding even if I did make her one, gave her the flowers, put her in the line up. My husband and I did not get any of our special pictures together, because family wanted them all and we ran out of time so we got none together. My mom was upset about her hair and the fact that we don’t have any pictures together either.
My guests also got lost and no one arrived on time so we had to push the ceremony to two hours later! We also could not find the rocks to our center pieces, so had to work with what we had… and my parents were given the wrong time for the ceremony so they came in 15 later than it was suppose to start! So after being shoved out the door and into a car, I had to wait another 15 minutes for it to begin, I was beginning to worry when I saw my groomsman run into the house and my uncle approached my dad to pull him out of the car and walked away with him like he was breaking some bad news. I was freaking out so my hair dresser went out to see whats going on. All of the sudden, I noticed the catering crew and a few guests walking around looking down and than it clicked. THEY LOST THE RINGS and they refused to tell me! I got measured for rings that came from two of the strongest marriages and despite all the madness I got married.
It was the only beautiful day of the week, even after it grumbled during the ceremony. My husband was stunned when he saw me and spoke his vows from the heart because everything he thought of went out the window than and there. The RINGS WERE FOUND! right after the ceremony. It was hot and humid so I couldn’t stop sweating and was gross all night. I must have spent 5 minutes sitting down and that was it, because I ended up being in demand all night. I danced, and drank and over all it was amazing. We had a tent wedding and all our friends and family came through decorating it for us. I ended up throwing the bouquet 3 times because I throw like a girl and the cake cutting was cute. People loved our cake toppers and the DJ made sure that people got to dancing!
Here are some pictures 🙂 We didn’t have a pro either
We are thinking about just the two of us dressing up and going to a pro to do some shots of us when we have the income to do so 🙂