(Closed) my creepy co-worker (help)

• Moja Milosc
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: September 2011

Can you asked to have your desk moved?

• CupcakeKelly
• 9 years ago

I would actually go to your boss now, just to be safe.  Like some PPs said, I don’t want to overreact, but people with this obsessive mindset can get out of control quickly.  I would have a meeting with your boss and say “Everything is harmless at this point, but I wanted to make you aware now that I feel uncomfortable in case things were to escalate.”  I would be sure to remain respectful of your coworker, but let your boss know that your discomfort with the situation is something s/he should be aware of.  That way, if things get worse, your boss will be prepared to help you resolve the situation.  Good luck!

• ohmybears48
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Wait… she “slams” your stuff? Tell me more, because that’s some firing offenses, if you ask me. 

• bookworm88
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: February 2012

yes, she’s being very creepy. but it sounds like she just wants a friend? if she’s going out of her way to bring you drinks you like and trying to relate to your life, she might just be looking for a connection to someone. 

don’t get me wrong, she’s going about it in all the wrong ways! perhaps next time you get into a conversation, ask her a question about something she doesn’t know about you– force her to tell something true about herself that she can’t copy?

• CupcakeKelly
• 9 years ago

Sorry, just saw that you’d already talked to your supervisor!  Anyone else you can notify?  I’d hate for this to get worse and no one knew it was a real issue!

 

• janie-janie
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: February 2010

@squeak:  I was actually joking– I wouldn’t actually do that either!

@FEFE215:  oh, creepy!  so, I was originally goign to say don’t go to HR or your supervisor about it because you can’t prove anything and it might make you look bad. but if your supervisor is your mother, and your mother actually knows what a lying weirdo your co-worker is….then why isn’t she helping you out with this?

it’s possible that your mom knows more than she lets on and does not think this is an actual threat to you. staring at you and copying you is weird and creepy, but there is no real and actual threat.

just look out for yourself and be super careful about your privacy. and be super vigilant– at home too, just in case. 

• khf777
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

Is her name Casey Anthony?

• bookworm88
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: February 2012

@FEFE215:  oh nope, definitely just sounds unstable. I wouldn’t bring any more attention to yourself by trying to engage in conversation! 

how long has she worked there? luckily, crazy people don’t seem to be able to keep jobs for too long…

• bookworm88
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: February 2012

@FEFE215:  oh nope, definitely just sounds unstable. I wouldn’t bring any more attention to yourself by trying to engage in conversation! 

how long has she worked there? luckily, crazy people don’t seem to be able to keep jobs for too long…

• TwinABee
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: April 2013

@tranquility:  Bwah ha ha ha ha!!!  Stalker Cat

@FEFE215:  I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this – truly bizarre!  I would get the stuff that she’s already done documented in writing – like an email to your supervisor reiterating this person’s behavior towards you.  That way if this situation escalates (fingers crossed that it doesn’t) you’ve got a paper trail in case it comes down to one of you having to leave the company.

• Ckj02
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

She sounds like a pathological liar with social anxiety issues. She probably wants to form a meaningful connection with you but can’t control her compulsive lying (probably also struggles w/ low self-esteem) for fear of being truthful will be worse. With that said, if you already tried to confront her i suggest you be cautious and speak to your manager if the situation escalates.

I feel bad that you have to deal w/ that situation every day…