(Closed) My cycles – PLEASE help!

• kes18
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Actually I think they are 24 days, 25 days, 25 days, 28 days.  The first day of your period is cycle day 1 but the last day of your cycle is the day before your period. 

I’m not sure what you’re asking.  Those are the correct length of your cycles I listed.  It is normal for it to vary by a few days.  This doesn’t look too odd to me.

The average of those numbers is 25.5

• MrsAKSkier
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

mamabricker2016:  Looks normal to me. Before I got pregnant my cycles were 25-30 days long, about like yours. You probably ovulate between cycle days 10-16, if that is what you are trying to figure out? An OPK could help you pinpoint it, or you could just have sex every other day or so.

• jny1179
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: April 2014

You cannot guess your ovulation date based on averages and cycle lengths. You could have a short or long luteal phase. You won’t know unless you do something to track it, use OPKs or track your temp. You could just have sex every other day but this is obviously something you stress about so take control over it and use a method that will actually work. Guessing will get you nowhere.

• jetsetbee
• 5 years ago

mamabricker2016:  You say you don’t want to buy anything because it will stress you out, but you seem to already be stressing about it. Lots of people (myself included) actually feel LESS stress by doing something to accurately predict ovulation. You’ll constantly be guessing and obsessing if you have no idea. You really can’t say that you “should” ovulate on the 28th because that’s purely based on averages, and since your cycle isn’t exactly 28 days every single month, you can’t have any real clear picture of when you’re ovulating. Wondfo OPKs are cheap and simple, why not give it a try? If it stresses you out more, it’s not like you have to keep using it, but you can at least get a better idea of when in your cycle you ovulate instead of continuing the guesswork. Also, you say you don’t want another disappointing month…from your previous posts, it seems you’ve only been trying a few months. Keep in mind that it takes a while, and even with perfectly timed intercourse, you may not get a lucky cycle yet. 

• solnishko1186
• 5 years ago

mamabricker2016:  You can not possibly predict ovulation date by the average lenght of your cycle. The only way to pinpoint the ovulation is to at least use OPKs and monitor CM or to chart. I am confused why you need to know the exact lenght of your cycle if you plan to BD every other day as soon as your period ends.

I know you are saying you do not want to stress tracking, but it is evident by your posts you are super stressed trying to figure it out anyway. If you start tracking, you at least will know for sure and will pin point the exact O day and know your pattern. Which would be much more predictable and less stressful. I am a little confused how you say you do not want to be stresses out tracking O, but you say that guessing is making your brain hurt – that is a form of stress too. You already post about every little symptom in the tww, so yes you are stressing about ttc already (and its ok, a lot of women are), but why not maybe admit that and get to know your body. It might actually make you feel less stressed. At first, month or two, using OPKs or charting might be stressful as you do not know what to expect and will be trying to interpret/analyze everything, but when you learn your pattern, predictability is much much less stressful than the guessing game.

 

• MrsAKSkier
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

mamabricker2016:  Look, either 1. have lots of sex all month (because if you do you are guaranteed to hit your fertile window, it doesn’t matter when you ovulate) or 2. figure out when you ovulate (by taking your temperature or using OPK or checking your fertile signs or some combination of the three) and have sex then. But just trying to guess when you ovulate doesn’t make much sense, IMO….

• solnishko1186
• 5 years ago

mamabricker2016:  Also, by not tracking your O, you can be missing your timing completly, which  will turn into more stress from having more upsetting months. You are trying so hard to say for some reason that you are not stressed out, but that’s being in denial. You have only been trying for few months, you are already upset of it not working out on the first try (for a lot of people, it does not, reality check – it is a long process in a lot of cases, and it is absolutly normal to take up to a year), you already obsess about tww symtoms, your cycles, etc. Why so stubborn on tracking ovulation..i don’t get it. If anything, if there are any issues, you will be able to pinpoint them sooner by knowing what your body is doing. Knowing and predictability is less stressful then not knowing.

If your DH, jetsetbee and a lot of other bees are telling you the same thing, maybe there is validity to that and something for you to take note of.

 

 

 

• This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by  solnishko1186.

• MrsAKSkier
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

mamabricker2016:  And I know it’s hard! It took us four months to conceive, which is really quick, but it seemed like forever! Best of luck to you!

• jny1179
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: April 2014

I avoided doing anything because I was afraid it would cause more stress for over a year, but when I finally started temping and could see clearly when I ovulated (earlier than I thought I had been all along) it took the stress away!!!! I highly recommend it. It’s hard not to stress while TTC.