Post # 1
He doesn’t like my fiance but he deals with him “because he makes me happy”. He also wants NOTHING to do with the planning of the wedding or even to hear about it. Its kind of sad to me, I feel like I can’t even be happy about my wedding around him, and i LIVE with him! Is it normal for a dad to have NO interest in his daughters wedding AT ALL? I am just wondering…
Post # 3
I never really talked to my dad about the wedding much either. Not really because he didn’t want to hear about it, but most things wedding affiliated (flowers, linens, dresses) aren’t really “man topics”.
Post # 4
Hmmm. Well, I don’t know if it’s normal, but my dad is very similar. Though granted, it’s more that my fiance can’t stand my dad; he’s not exactly a model father and my fiance spent many years showing me that not all marriages work (or fail to do so) like my parents’.
Your dad is probably having a hard time coming to terms with losing his little girl. It’s probably not that he isn’t interested, he just doesn’t know how to deal wth the whole situation.
When it gets closer to the wedding, see if you can involve him with things like the father/daughter dance or walking you down the aisle, if those are things you’re interested in. He might be glad to be involved in ways that show him how important he is to you.
If nothing else, know that you are choosing a new life for yourself, and not everyone will be happy for you. Life is way too short to spend trying to please everyone else, so follow your heart and hopefully he will come around. If not, don’t dwell on it. Surround yourself with people who will support you and you’ll find that your life is a lot happier for it.
And if he doesn’t want to hear about wedding details… share them here! It’s like a drug, I swear 🙂
Post # 5
My fiance “asked him for my hand” he said “only if you can provide for her and Caidence and graduate high school first” and that has been the end of the talk… in 2 years he knows nothing. he told me he was going to wear a Darth Vader costume and thats about it… he doesn’t even know when it is or where its at LOL
Post # 6
I haven’t really spoken to either of my parents about our wedding – except to tell them the date & the venue. I know they’ll enjoy the party but the actual planning isn’t really their deal.
If you want him to be involved have a conversation with him and tell him it’s important to you!
Post # 7
I haven’t even talked to my mom about the wedding she knows we are going to get married some time in the future but she has no idea when LOL I just don’t want to torture him with it, we have never talked about anything that has anything to do with emotion at all… i don’t like to because i know he doesn’t i can tell when i start mentioning it he gets in a worse mood than he already is in and then generally changes the subject…I don’t really mind because I can bother all of you amazing women about details of the wedding but i was just wondering if this is normal.