(Closed) My dad hates me…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not going thru this but I’m so very sorry that you are. That totally sux. Is there a relative that you can live with til you move in with your man. Or can you live at his parent’s house?

Post # 5
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sounds like your dad has some serious problems. Growing up my dad did similar things to me and my siblings. It took him 4 year of intense therapy to get over it. Although, he can still be an arse sometimes.

As for moving out, I think you should ask your FI’s parents if its okay if you move in. Sounds like you basically live there right now anyhow. Explain the situation to them. Maybe offer to buy groceries or pay a smell bit of rent. If they say no, check out other nearby relative’s places, good friends with an extra room or couch. If all else fails, look for women’s homes in your area (here in Milwaukee they are 100% women only homes where you can get a private bed for about $100-$250 a month, have access to clean bathrooms, etc. Your Fiance could never, ever visit, but you’d have someplace to go besides your parent’s place.) or a month-to-month studio or as a roommate with a bunch of people. I know LA is crazy expensive, but there has to be somewhere cheap you can rent.

Be careful and good luck!

Post # 6
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You said he used to hit you and threatens to now and pushes you around but he doesn’t treat your sister that way.  Does he act this way towards your mother? 

You could try talking to your mom.  Do you get along with her?  Maybe the two of you could get out together? 

If your FI’s parents aren’t cool with you totally moving in with them, you might be able to stay at a women’s/domestic violence shelter. 

Oceanside is near San Diego, right?  Here are some resources I found online. 







The first two links I posted have several links and info on programs that can help.  Also there’s the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800- 799-7233 (SAFE)

Post # 7
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You dad sounds emotionally abusive.  Get out of there ASAP!!

Post # 9
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

good luck with everything. im sorry to hear that you’re going through that. no one should ever have to go through that. my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your mother. i hope you’re both able to get out of that situation asap!

Post # 10
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

wow…there HAS to be a reason for all this…especially since he treats your sister differently.

but yeah…there has to be a reason for this—-have you tried asking your mom? I’m sure sghe mush have noticed something.

Post # 12
1154 posts
Bumble bee

The reason for him treating you like this is that he’s a disturbed individual and an asshole and should not have children.  I’m sorry you’re going through this.  You should move out as soon as possible, sooner.  Staying in the same home as someone abusive is terrible for you not only physically but emotionally and pshycologically.  Good luck finding a job, any job as a temporary measure. 

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