(Closed) My dad is a religious extremist and keeps trying to “save” me

posted 9 years ago in Christian
Post # 92
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2000

ejs…i have the exact same prob w/my mom and i set boundaries or so i thought and just got a letter in the mail yesterday (mind u she is 15mins from me) about how God is asking us to Pray this Prayer etc and i am fuming. i am supposed to see her today and have been stressing for the last 24 hrs about this. my hubby says i needto do something where there are actual repercussions for the behavior b/c speakign to her about it isn’t working as ive spoken to her more times than i can count. how is your situ going?

Post # 92
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Wannabee

Hello…. I’m here 4 years later, I’ve read the majority of the comments, and boy…. Almost everything has been said, but I hope you hold tight and may nothing interfere with your faith. <br /><br />Is the situation better now? Four years later? Has it improved, had to you to cut your father of your life?? Or did he understand? After all the comments it almost feel like a cliffhanger now

Post # 93
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

annabellemoon:  I know right?! I “followed” this thread like a month ago.

 

Update please!

Post # 94
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Wannabee

ejs4y8:  OMG! My dad is the same way and I can’t stand it! I also have my reasons why I dont want HIM out of all people to preach to me – because he cheated on my mother And married his mistress – not very Christian of him! I wouldn’t be so judgemental if only he would practice what he preaches (the bible). But I think bottom line is he is obsessed with religion because he feels guilty with God. It’s crazy, but I truly believe this. Does your dad feel guilty about something?

I am also in your same situation where he saids I am not holy enough, a God-hater, and that “my god” is not his God because I don’t pray HIS way. He constantly harassasses me about praying and going to church To save myself. He calls me a feminist because I’m pro-choice and he keeps saying I’m unhappy in my life because I don’t have God in my life – I find this really really insulting and disrespectful because I do believe in a God and I feel happy with my life. Moreover, he believes I should be married and have a husband Already because that is what God made us for, so he will occasionally tell me I am way past my age of finding a husband and calls me “old” (I’m in my early 30’s). He saids I HAVE TO listen to him and respect his beliefs because the 10 commandments says to honor your parents – I love my dad, but I don’t respect much of his choices in his life And he obviously never listens to my concerns aka doesn’t respect my choices because I’m not a die hard religious person. 

Sadly, I think we won’t be able to change our fathers. I just stay away from him and it’s always a fight when I see him. If I tell him he is “right” he will still argue that and say “you are telling me I’m right just to shut me up” – but I truly don’t agree with him at all and I am loyal to my beliefs, so it’s a never ending argument. So exhausting! 

Youre not alone and I wish you luck! 

Post # 95
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 6666

ejs4y8:  ejs4y8:  he thinks your pain is god trying to tell you something?! Ok, Let’s say god was real. God is supposed to be almighty. He’s supposed to have created the universe. Also, in all the stories of the bible, he talks to all of his characters directly. So, why would god give you a tooth ache and sickness when it’s supposedly possible for him to straight up tell you.

Is your dad trying to say that God is an uneducated, bored little asshole who likes to play guessing games and torment people untill they finally get his unorthodox ways?

I read a few pages of the bible, it said that God made the universe, and then the next day he created light… how do you create the universe withought stars (light)- the very centers of all things in what make the universe?!?! I stopped reading after I realized it just continuously contradicts itself.

Post # 96
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2019

ejs4y8 :  ugh… I don’t know if it’s funny or depressing but my parents are Muslim and they both are practically like your dad… they’ve been trying to clone me into them since I was 16 and now I’m almost 40… I love them… I even love my religion… but my approach is more spiritual than anything and for them if I’m not literal and 100% by the book then I’m headed for hell and they MUST save me. So EVERY SINGLE CONVERSATION or text turns into a sermon and that turns into an argument until we sulk and stay separate ways and then they reach out to me a week later because they love me and miss me and the whole cycle begins again… I dunno… if you find an answer… please tell me… cus my brain is at a dead end… xo

Post # 97
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Wannabee

ejs4y8 :  Her dad sounds like Jesus and the Pharasies. They hated what he had to say so much that they had him killed to shut him up.

Post # 98
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

guy1130 :  You made an account just to say that? 

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