My dad is attending my female-only bridal shower…

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 31
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497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Greenspot Farms

My grandfather was at my all female bridal shower running the grill but it was a multi generational thing… no risky gifts or anything so it wasn’t weird. We had the bachelorette that night and it was ladies only!!! That’s when I got the dirty gifts lol. 

I’ve never been to a bridal shower where dirty gifts were opened, it’s usually a pretty classy day affair where she opens gifts off her registry. All the raunchy stuff comes out at the bachelorette in my social circle. 

Mid dirty gifts were being opened I would be very uncomfortable with any father’s present lol.

Post # 32
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907 posts
Busy bee

Can you ask him to come to the shower towards the end? After the gifts are opened? My dad and my fiance came to my shower hours later to say thank you to my guest for attending and mostly to help me with all of the gifts. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

It’s up to you but I wanted to let you know it’s not weird (at least at the showers I’ve gone to). The groom has always been there and the father of the bride has been there sometimes too.

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper

bluesky355 :  What concerns me most is your sense that there may actually be something more going on here. They are literally never apart? Your stepmother never so much as goes to the supermarket by herself?! Does she drive? 

Together with your mother’s comments, it does start to raise questions. 

In a normal situation, you just say “Sorry, Dad, women only.” If there’s a lot of pushback or stepmother can all of a sudden no longer attend, I’d be inclined to dig a little deeper. 

Post # 35
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353 posts
Helper bee

Keep us updated when you talk to him! I think its totally reasonable to say Love you dad but this is women only

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

jellybellynelly :  Yes, OP is his “baby girl,” and as such, of course it would be uncomfortable for her father to witness his baby girl opening lingerie.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

If he INSIST on attending, then i would make it clear he needs to stay in the other room for gift opening.  Your stepmom is welcome to stay or sit at the bar with him, but there is no reason to be in the room while you are opening what could be lingerie. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

jellybellynelly :  but its a specifically “female only event”  women are allowed to have female only events in their lives.. she shoudlnt have to feel bad about that. its a couple hours for gods sake

 

Post # 40
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2017 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I went to a shower once where one of the REALLY OLD uncles was present. It was uncomfortable. She was getting underwear and was unable to let loose and have fun with it. 

Talk to him and let him know you don’t want him there. Just because he helped create you doesn’t mean he get a free pass. 

Post # 41
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Busy bee

FWIW i wouldn’t want my mom knowing what underwear I have. Let alome my dad. I agree with the majority.

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