Post # 1
I tried to post on Thursday about all the problems I’d been having with my grandmother but WB ate it. No one was calling me to give me details about my dad’s health. I heard from my ex-stepmom that he was in organ failure and then when I called they said he wasn’t. I got REALLY pissed and started cursing them saying they should have called me and I don’t understand what’s going on I want to speak to a nurse. I called the nurse and my grandmother gave instructions that the nurse wasn’t to speak to me at all and I was to get all information from her. If you read above you’d notice this wasn’t happening. My dad died the next day on Christmas Eve. I am not surprised and knew he was going to die soon, I felt it. I was always a true daddy’s girl and my dad doted on me most of my life and even in death he doted because he knew that Christmas was my favorite day and he told my sister that he didn’t want to die on Christmas so we didn’t remember that day as a day of sadness. I am so glad that he isn’t in pain anymore and he was my guardian angel. I am not sad that he is gone, I will miss his voice like crazy, but I see his face every time I look in the mirror because I truly look just like him. My son looks a lot like him too and I just see my dad everywhere which is awesome.
I have already said my goodbyes and am happy my dad isn’t in pain anymore but I have had it with my grandmother and that side of my family. They tried to control my wedding and couldn’t. Then they decided to control and take something away from me that wasn’t theirs to give. I spoke to my daddy the night before he died and told him that they weren’t calling me and then I told him jokes and how much I loved him. We got off the phone laughing with each other.
My sister and I both are disgusted with them. They never gave us any information on my dad at all. I live five hours away my sister lives 20 minutes. She never knew when my dad was home or not home, etc. I hear that they are waiting for me to come home to take care of the arrangements. After he died I was called by everyone. I answered the phone and responded “Why the f’ are you calling me now” and hung up. There are no words I can say to them and honestly I am glad I no longer have their last names.
Anyway my dad wouldn’t want me to be mad, he’d want me to make light of the situation and make an off color joke so… at least I won’t have to buy them Christmas gifts next year :D. Here is the last picture I have with my dad from my wedding.
Post # 3
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry. I can’t believe how horrible your grandparents were about the situation.
Post # 4
I am so sorry to hear that you have gone through all of this with your family, but I have to say I’m proud of you for sticking up for yourself. I’m sure your dad would have been very proud of your independence and assertiveness. 🙂 What a beautiful photo of the two of you! Focus on your memories of your dad, not the pettiness of your family. What proof that all the family drama is pointless. God bless!
Post # 5
Sorry to hear about your dad. I can’t believe that your family did that to you. I am glad you were able to speak with him before he passed. **Hugs honey**
Post # 7
No words can express how sad I am for you. Your posts brought tears to my eyes and sorrow to my heart. I Know you will always have your father around you through your sone and through your features and I also know that he will also always hold a special place in your heart. Know that he is in a better place now watching over you and your family with other loved ones that have gone on before him. The picture of the two of you speaks volumes. I know that you will/have a special place in your home for that picture.
Post # 8
I’m sorry to hear about his passing! :-/ Sending big **hug**.
Post # 9
🙁 I know how you feel. Not the evil grandparents part, but about losing your dad part. I’m glad he was able to be there for your wedding. That is such a lovely photo of you two. And you are right! You don’t have to buy them presents next year!
If I were you, I would send them “thank you for being douchebags” cards. *hugs*
Post # 10
Crebre….I am so sorry for your loss but am so happy that your dad was able to be there for you on your wedding day. Your family tried to take something away from you but God allowed you to make the last memories of your father great ones. My heart and my prayers go out to you during this time.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone. His ex-wife was livid and told my grandmother that if he knew everything that was going on he’d be pissed, but I am glad that he doesn’t have to deal with any of it and I am quite frankly glad I don’t have to deal with them now. My grandmother is a drama queen and control freak and quite frankly no one controls me. But anyhoo.. I had to break the news to my son. I told him last week or the week before that that my dad wad dying and that he’d be in heaven soon to take care of us. My son looked sad and I told him that granddad was in a lot of pain but that he loved him very much. My son also spoke with him the Thursday before and my dad was full of life and energy and my son just told him that he loved him. My son got the paper jam toy for Christmas and looks just like my dad when he plays. I think I may get my son guitar lessons. My dad started when he was about my son’s age and I think it will be an amazing way for him to be close to my dad and for me to be close as well.
Post # 13
my deepest sympathy for your lost. I can only imagine how difficult this is, so i hope you are surrounded by love. May you and your family find peace. Take care and big hugs
Post # 12
*hugs* Crebre. I’m glad you were able to talk to him before he passed 🙁
Post # 14
@crebre80: I am so sorry for your loss and for the way some of your family members handled the situation. But I am really glad that your dad was able to be there for your wedding day – you and him look so happy together in the photo you posted and it’s wonderful that he was able to be there on your day! He is in no pain now and that’s the most important thing…. hugs 🙂
Post # 15
So sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved father. I’m so glad he was able to be there with you to celebrate your special day. I’m certain the photos you have of him you’ll treasure forever. Most of all, I’m proud of you for handling your relatives as you are. Stay strong, girlie! Hugs!
Post # 16
So sorry to hear about your dad. It is a shame your family acted so poorly about the whole situation. It is great that he was able to be at your wedding, I’m sure you have many wonderful memories