(Closed) My Dad Is Not Attending Our Wedding…should I call his side of the family?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My father was/is the same way and wont be attending mine. If his family is anything like my fathers they know how he is and what he did so they will let it go in one ear and out the other. When my father bitches about anything that side of the family pays no attention because they know he is wrong and that he likes to play the victim. If they are anything like that they know how he is and wont let his ranting affect them.

Post # 4
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sorry I pushed submit before I wanted:

You just have to remember that they have known him his whole life (or at least most of it) chances are they will see him for who he really is and let it roll off. If not and they think you are being horrible to him after what he did to you, do you honestly want those people at your wedding. You want people who will support YOU, not your deadbeat dad.

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you cant help how other people feel – if your father flipped out so much then maybe he should be asking himself instead why he was such a small presence in your life instead of being angry at those that where there for you. being the bio parent listed on a birth certificate doesnt make you a mom or dad, your actions love, guidance and care does

as far as the rest of the family, im hoping they are not blind to their brothers behaviour over the year and if they have been in your life then they should understand the committment your stepdad has made to you. goodluck – dont let others make you feel bad over this

Post # 6
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4824 posts
Honey bee

@Corilee13: I agree

If they do believe the same as your father, then they are being unfair to you and lieing to themselves and they arent the people you want there anyway.

You could however call them to catch up and see if they mention something or if they do RSVP no, call to find out why if you want. It might give you some piece of mind.

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