Post # 1
My parents were divorced when I was about 8 years old. I lost contact with my dad then we became really close and now that I live in another city we talk occassionally and see one another on holidays. He has lived with the same woman and her son for 13 years now. I wanted my grandfather and my dad to walk me down the aisle because my grandfather has been there for me always in every way and I did not want to take the position away from my dad either. My dad will not have it! He said he is not helping pay for the wedding if he cannot walk me by himself. I told him that was fine. Now he says he just wants to show up and watch. What do I do? I am not giving up my grandfather walking me though. Also, when the family comes out should he be in that too since he does not want to come to rehearsal or anything like that now?
Also, he never came to any of my school events or anything like that. Never financially supported me. But his girlfriends son he does everything with and even drives the band truck to football games which hurts also.
Post # 3
sounds like you want grandpa to walk you down the aisle. so…have grandpa walk you down the aisle.
Post # 4
have your grandfather walk you down.
Post # 5
I agree with the others. Let your grandfather have the honor and let your dad sit in the back and pout like the child he’s acting like. No offense meant!
If he’s gonna act like that, I don’t see where he deserves a place of honor amongst your family.
Just my opinion, though. 🙂 good luck and sorry you’re going through this!
Post # 6
I agree with @Ryna, he doesn’t deserve to be included in family honor if he’s acting like this.
Have your grandfather who has always been there for you and generously offered to share that honor with your dad without stipulations walk to you down the aisle.
Post # 7
It sounds like your grandfather had the bigger place in your life. If you want him to walk you down for sure, then you only have two other options: your father walks additionally or he doesn’t. You can’t make your father walk along with your grandfather, so it’s up to him. If he wants to be there for you, then he will. If he’s more interested in being “right”, then he won’t.
And if he doesn’t, then I agree, he doesn’t deserve it, and it’s his loss.
Post # 8
Thanks I just didnt want to be a bridezilla. lol
When the family walks in during processional should him and his girlfriend walk with the family? Does that mean they would have to come to rehearsal?
Post # 9
No they don’t have to go to the rehearsal and the way he’s acting I would have him be seated with all the other guests.
Post # 10
It sounds like he is trying to manipulate you so that you drop your grandfather and have your dad walk with you instead. I bet when he realized you are not willing to kick your grandfather out, he will give in.
Post # 11
I think when the family processes in, he could walk, but not with the girlfriend. He should either walk alone or with your Mom, if that wouldn’t be too weird.
PS- why would you feel like a bridezilla? You offered to your Dad the opportunity to walk with you when in reality he doesn’t deserve it. He is the one that is being a baby.