(Closed) My Dad is officially not coming.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

giving blood a MONTH later? seriously?  i’d be thankful this guy isn’t coming.  and i’m so sorry he hurt you like this.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unfortunately some parents never learn what it means to parent. Your Dad appears to be one of them.

Parenting means growing up and doing what is best for your child. Too many parents just need to be told “Get over it!”. I don’t expect them to be lovey dovey with an ex. I do expect them to be civil in public. A grown up can do that.

I am sorry you are hurting.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I am very sorry.  I know this must be so painful.  I’m just curious, how does giving blood have anything to do with a wedding?  Is he flying?  It’s a pretty weak excuse.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

thats the worst excuse i’ve ever heard. i’m sorry, you’re better off without him.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

giving blood a month after?? That is one lame excuse!

I would call my dad out on it but than follow it by well good you aren’t coming my mom is bring a date or something like that.

I wouldnt be nice!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

that is the dumbest excuse I have ever heard. Why can’t some parents just grow up? I am sorry you are going through this. Better to be surrounded by people supporting you than by someone who thinks it is all about them and their problems, even though I know it’s a bit tougher because it’s your dad, but he’s not acting like a very good dad.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t understand how giving blood a month later – or even a day later! – has anything to do with your wedding…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I’m so sorry.  Fiance parents aren’t coming to our wedding (religious reasons) and my sisters won’t be attending either.  It’s hard, but I’ve come to terms with it.

(((hugs)))

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I mean… it could be an excuse…. if your wedding was in Africa or a country on the banned list… highly doubt it is…..

Sorry about his immaturity ;-(

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s awful, I am so sorry to read this.  I’ll hope he changes his mind.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

@Quietserenity: you should tell him that you’d love for him to visit in December, but you’ll be donating blood in January, so OBVIOUSLY he can’t go.

Oh wait, I have an idea…why doesn’t he NOT donate blood!

My DH’s mom didn’t want to see her ex at the wedding, and it took a lot to finally get her to come.  The whole rehearsal she was saying to my mom how upset she was to see him and how uncomfortable she was.  My mom told her straight up “Suck it up.  For ONE DAY, you can suck it up and be here for your son.  It’s not about YOU today.”  And she did.

I love my mom.  Any chance you would have the gall to say that to your dad?

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