- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
Nope. My FI’s dad has asked him for money on three different occasions.
The first one – oh god – 20k euros to open a business of some sort (just like your dad, he’s had lots of endevours throughout his life without success). My Fiance at the time took a loan to give his father the money. He didn’t have savings but didn’t have debt. Anyways, he spent the next 2 years paying off the loan. (Mind you, this was before I was in the picture, at the time he was with his exGF and she did not like this one bit). Fast forward a few years and he asks again, this time for a smaller amount, around 5k. I was FI’s Girlfriend at the time, so I didn’t really say anything, didn’t feel like it was my place. This time he said he needed the money to pay off bills because – surprise – his business wasn’t going well. So Fiance gave him the money. Fast forward to this year, July, and yet again, he asks Fiance for money, around 8k, because he and Future Mother-In-Law had a vacation trip planned to europe and didn’t want to cancel the trip since they had already made some deposits and had the plane tickets, and that business hasn’t been good for some time. He KNOWs we’re getting married and moving soon (even though my dad’s paying for almost everything), but anyways we aren’t in a position to spend our savings. This time around I told him this was absurd and disrespectful and that I would NOT stand by him if he have his father money. We ended up going to counselling over this matter, but I stood my ground. Thankfully he did NOT give Future Father-In-Law the money this time and they just got it from someone else (I DGAF who, lol).
Anyways, this turned out more like a ramble of my own, lol. Sorry. What I meant to say is they’ll always ask if you give, it becomes this vicious cycle, and he’ll never pay you back.
Just like my Future Father-In-Law needs to get a job ASAP, so does your dad, bee.