Post # 1
Hi everyone- I need some advice. So my dad picked a song for us to dance to and I absolutely hate it! “A Song for My Daughter” by Ray Allaire. No offense to anyone who likes this song, but it’s very sappy- which is the opposite of our relationship. I have no clue why he would pick this song.
Anyway- I have searched and searched for a different version or cover of the song and can’t find anything. I honestly cringe when I hear this song.
Should I suck it up and just dance to it, find another song or see if our band can do a cover of it? I don’t want to upset my dad, but this is really not us. at. all.
Post # 3
Did you want something slow or fast? For me finding a father-daughter that wasn’t cheesy was very difficult. I just gave up and chose “Gracie” by Ben Folds
Post # 4
Why don’t you just casually ask him what made him pick that song? Don’t make it appear that you don’t like it, but make it seem like a curious question. Maybe its for some sentimental reason, if so then you should suck it up & let him have that 3 minutes. If not, then suggest something else. This is not something that you should stress over.
Post # 5
I would suck it up. It’s such a small part of the day and the fact that he chose the song signifies that it is meaningful to him. Plus, there are going to be so many things going through your head at that time that you probably won’t even hear the song. This just isn’t a battle I would choose to fight.
Post # 7
I let my dad pick. I’d much rather dance to something that’s meaningful to him than something I think “sounds” right to me.
Post # 8
I’d generally agree with the “suck it up” votes if I knew that it was a special song to him and he chose it deliberately for X reason. So you may want to ask why before proceeding further…who knows, maybe it was at the top of an Internet list and he stopped his search there. If that (or similar) is the case, there’s no reason you can’t suggest working together to find something more appropriate.
Post # 9
@CanAmBride: Yep. My dad picked “Let It Be” by the Beatles, which is pretty odd for a father/daughter dance. But it meant so much to him so I was happy to dance to it!
Post # 10
Awww I think you should just go with it. It’s probably meaningful to him and it’s a very special moment between you and your father 🙂
Post # 11
My dad is getting sappy lately, too, which is the opposite of our relationship. He brought me up to be tough as nails, but now he’s getting all gooey about how I’m his little girl (I’m 40).
I think we have to suck it up. And, anyway, if there’s a moment in the wedding that’s about him, the father/daughter dance is it, so I think you have to let him have his moment.
Maybe it’ll be nice 🙂
Post # 12
just go with it. You can always ask the DJ/band to play a shortened version
Post # 13
Thanks everyone! I think i will suck it up, but ask the band to sing it to help make it feel more modern. Appreciate the feedback and I know my dad will be happy!