(Closed) My dad really wants us to have kids!

posted 8 years ago in TTC
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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MRS-K:  Aw honey!  First thing’s first, you need to let go of the societal/family pressure to conceive b/c I’m sure you’re stressed enough about it yourself, and that might be part of the reason it hasn’t happened yet.  Though we’re not TTC yet or even talking about it (wedding not til November), when I casually mentioned on Mother’s Day how I have baby fever to my mom, she got all excited and said, “ME TOO!  I’ve been waiting for this your whole life!”  UH, WHAT!??  

She and I are super close (only child, father passed very young, never remarried) and share everything, but in that moment, I felt like a failure!  She went on and on about this is why we should get a house before the wedding so we don’t have to wait as long to start having kids.  Woman, you think I don’t KNOW THIS!??  Buying a home is not like picking up a gallon of milk!  It’s all very new and scary to the both of us, so ideally we’d like to take our time.  

I’m 31 now and will probably not be ready to TTC until I’m about your age.  Then, who’s to say it will happen immediately?  I believe your dad means well, but can’t begin to imagine how stressful a mere comment can be.  I think the opposite – if you share how much you ARE TTC right now and that it’s a lot for you and your husband, he may be empathetic and back of naturally.  No parent wants to believe they’re causing their child unwanted stress.

IT WILL HAPPEN!    

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Worker bee

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MRS-K:  I don’ t want to hurt You with my questions…

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Worker bee

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MRS-K:  🙂

 

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