Post # 32
Wow, that is horrible! Horrible!
Do you think there’s any chance he’ll change his mind with time? Sometimes men hate to lose face – maybe he felt really foolish when he realized he’d planned a wedding on your date, but with time he’ll realize just how horrible it would be to steal your date.
Post # 33
You are a lot nicer than me. I would be furious! I am the type of person who if you do something that horrible to me, it will take a long time for me to forgive or even talk to you again. I would be happy that someone that mean wouldn’t be at my wedding (well…maybe not if it was my dad). I’m just so upset for you!
Stick to your date. You have every reason and right to! I am so sorry this has happened and I want to slap your dad across the face for the way he treated you on the phone! Your Fiance sounds wonderful and I am so glad you fond him! You deserve it!
Post # 34
Your story makes my heart ache – you and your Fiance must have an incredible relationship to be dealing with this and whatever must have gone on with your father in the past!
Get going on those invitations, or at least get Save-The-Date Cards out to the rest of the guests … normally I wouldn’t suggest you be so petty, but this is clearly not a “normal” situation and in this case I think it’s important that your father’s side of the family know that you chose he date before he did, and not the other way around.
IMO, the worst part of the whole thing is the regret your father will someday feel for this. You deserve to have a wonderful day, and you deserve to be surrounded by the people you love and who love you, too. You are obviously a strong and forgiving person, and I have no doubt that you will bounce back, but your poor, selfish father will for the rest of his life have to live with the fact that he wasn’t at his daughter’s wedding… long after his own marriage falls apart and his grandchildren have grown up without him in their lives.
Keep your head up, and remember that you are the daughter here, it’s not your job to run around cleaning up your father’s messes.
Good luck to you and your Fiance, and I hope YOUR day is amazing!
Post # 35
OMG! I wish I could say I don’t believe it but nothing surprises me anymore! GEEZE! My Dad pulled something VERY SIMILAR! My sister was getting married several years ago and my Dad was engaged to a crazy psychotic witch. Everyone arrived on Friday afternoon (the day before my sister’s wedding) and my Dad and the psycho shows up and announce they got married the day before! Talking about UPSTAGING my sister’s wedding! And then they made us all swear we wouldn’t tell anyone because they still planned to have the big church wedding a couple of months later. It was ridiculous!
My heart goes out to you. What your Dad did was selfish. I wouldn’t change my wedding. HE should change HIS! You are his little girl and he has already had a chance! Shame on him! Urggh! I think this is the most angry I have ever gotten from a post! I want to beat him up for you! LOL!
Post # 36
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
Ewww I really am sorry for your situation, that really really stinks! I hope everything works out!