(Closed) My dad told me not to expect a lot of people to come

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Was my father's comment negative or realistic?
    It was very negative and uncalled for he shouldn't have said anything : (7 votes)
    10 %
    It was realistic, I mean your already married so he does have a point : (8 votes)
    11 %
    It was somewhat realistic, he has a point, but he could have worded it differently : (33 votes)
    46 %
    Ignore the comment all together, just enjoy your day you deserve it! : (23 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
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    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Coming from another girl whose father is less than perfect with words… He doesn’t know what he’s talking about and he seems to be trying to make you upset, don’t let it. It IS your day, it IS your wedding and it will be beautiful ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You’re only inviting people you talk to regularly, right? Do YOU think they will come? I think you do. Sure, depending on travel distance or cost some people might be less likely to make a big expenditure at a later date than the wedding but I would think most people would come. Talk to a couple of other family members and see what they say if you’re worried about it, but I’d just plan your party and appreciate those that show up, be they many or few.

    Post # 5
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    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hi, there – almost date twin!

    I’m a littlee surprised how many people aren’t coming for our wedding, but it’s because they’re already booked for something else (another wedding, an overseas trip, etc). Summer is a busy time, and some people won’t be able to make it. But it’ll be because they can’t, not because it isn’t important. It will have nothing to do with the fact that it’s a renewal. 

    Ignore your dad. He’s just raining on your parade.

     

    Post # 6
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    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think if you are only inviting people who you talk to regularly they will probably come.

    But in all honesty I have to say my family is the kind that if you are already married and tried to have something like that they probably wouldnt come. But thats my family, only you know how your family will react.

    SOrry if this isnt what you wanted to hear. I just know how many people look at it.

    Post # 8
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    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    While I don’t think your father was the best with the way he said it, I would have to agree with him. Unless you are very close, a vow renewal, especially so far from your original marriage date, might not have a lot of attendees. Personally, if you were a very close friend I would go. If you were an aquaintance I might not. I wouldn’t expect any of my long-distance relatives to come either.

    Unfortunately most people will see it as a renewal rather than the actaul ceremony being this far out. I hope you still have lots of fun and don’t let it get you down!

    Post # 9
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    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would agree with everyone else. Your father definitely could have worded it a little nicer, but I think he has the right point. I know in my family, many people would not be in attendance. (at least I don’t think they would..) but this is still a special time for you & your husband, so enjoy it! (:

    Post # 10
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly, they should understand your circumstance, but I also can’t speak for anyone.  I’m sure your dad was being a debbie downer though.  Keep us updated.

    Post # 11
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    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Also, when did you elope and what year would this vow renewal be?

    Post # 12
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    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @ValerieC:  ooo honey… I am so sorry. Negativity is a sad, sad thing especially when its part of your father’s personality. Don’t let him get to you.

    Unfortunately, he could be right about how many people make it… if not partially right.

    but FORTUNATELY, you probably didn’t need those people there anyway!

    Go forward with your plans of renewal…

    people do it all the time even when they’ve already had their big, lavish affair! 

    YOU AND YOUR HUBBY DESERVE IT!!!

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