Post # 1
My dad is totally going totally going to end up on NotAlwaysRight.com someday. He went grocery shopping with me this weekend, so I could get everything for Thanksgiving, and these are just a few things that happened:
- He gave the Walmart checker lots of advice on how to make her job easier…and she was not pleased, but she was still cordial.
- At a grocery store, one of the baggers was hugging herself to keep warm, and he told her, “It’s a shame you have to hug yourself when there’s a cute guy over there that could hug you.” The bagger laughed, but still, that’s sexual harrassment (I think).
- He calls employees at retail stores “store slaves.” This bugs me the most, and actually, both my parents do it. It really makes me mad. They get paid, so they aren’t slaves, and I think it is disrespectful to the employees and people that actually are slaves (because slavery still exists). I don’t know how to make them stop.
I guess maybe this is white privilege talking? I’m not sure. It’s just super embarrassing!
Anyway, vent over. 🙂
Post # 3
@fancymichelle: Is your dad elderly? My dad does embarassing stuff like that too AND I used to work as a cashier and I got the craziest comments…I’d consider what your dad said to be small talk compared to what I’ve heard!
Post # 4
My father used to tell me that parents are contractually obligated to make their children cringe as much as possible – and that he was head of the class. Yup.
I have to agree with you about the “slaves” comment though. I would find that really uncomfortable too.
As for how this might be “white privilege,” I’m not sure what you mean by that. I’m sure kids of all ethnicities have mortifying parents. Perhaps you meant “first world problem” instead?
Post # 5
The only one I agree about is the slave comments. I’ve made some productivity suggestions to employees before — I used to work retail so if I could make their life a bit easier, great! It isn’t a big deal if they’re not interested.
I don’t see how saying “Cute guy would probably like to hug you” is sexual harassment.
My dad says stuff like this all the time. He’s trying to be funny mostly, so I just shrug it off.
Post # 6
@ValerieBee03: Dad is 65, and he is getting worse as he gets older! 🙂
@chercee: I wonder if maybe Dad thinks he can say all these things because he is a white man? I’m not sure. I might be totally off the mark there.
@Hyperventilate: Ehh, I just think I would be offended if someone made that kind of remark to me. But maybe I’ve lived in LA too long, and I might take political correctness to an extreme!
Post # 7
@fancymichelle: Oh. Well were all the people he spoke to non-white? Even if they were though, that doesn’t mean white privilege. Really if anything, I would maybe put some of it down to Mansplaining.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@fancymichelle: Your post totally made me think of Chevy Chase’s character Pierce on Community.
Post # 9
@FutureDrAtkins: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA omg can’t breathe. YES.
Post # 10
He sounds JUST like my Dad! (Which is not really a good thing…)
My Dad once told a Subway employee that he and I should “Marry and create lovely Aryan children together.”
And he was only mostly joking.
I have no idea of it’s an age thing or a “no filter thing” or if he’s just insane.
So anyway, you have my deepest sympathies!
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
I laughed so hard yesterday when I was watching the episode where he says “Why don’t they call black Friday Jew Friday?” OMG SOOOO wrong!!
Post # 12
@fancymichelle: I was born and raised in California myself. I had people blatantly hit on me while I was working (that pissed me off) but the comment seemed innocent enough.