Post # 1
I have been talking to my sis who is the Maid/Matron of Honor and my dad about bridesmaid dresses and my dad’s gf is always there (that part doesnt bother me) so i tell them the dress i want and that i am having a hard time finding it…well anywho i finally found the dress from alfred angelo (so excited) so i told them at our traditional coffee night and she goes OMG that is the same dress i wanted to wear….are you forreal?!?!?!?!?!?!?! i have been talking for 2 months now what i wanted and now you are gonna all of a sudden say that is the same dress…you have got to be joking me….
Should i tell her please don’t wear that type of dress or tell my dad to tell her not to wear that dress and that it will hurt my feelings… (a little back ground…I cant stand her but i tolerate her because she is with my dad)
Post # 3
That would really irritate me.
I remember when my dad started dating this new woman she tried OVERLY hard to become friends with me when I was 15. She loved all of the music I loved, liked all of the tv shows I liked, and hated the same foods I hated. It was really annoying, because despite the fact that I (secretly) hated her before I met her, I did want to find a reason to like her.
I see this as a similar situation to what I experienced. Maybe your dad’s girlfriend is just trying to find a similarity between the two of you? Maybe she doesn’t actually want to wear the same dress, but would love to be included in your planning for your wedding and this is the only way she knows how to “get herself in” with your conversations.
Then again, I could be completely wrong and she’s just crazy. 😉
Post # 4
They have been together for 10 years…i liked her at first and now she is so annoying…she is upset that i havent included her in anything about the wedding besides the BM’s dresses. she is upset i am not sending her a direct invite to the wedding and that she is going to be listed as my dad’s date and the same goes for my mom…so i am not favoring. i think she just needs to get over herself lol 🙂 Im glad there is someone else out in this world that knows how i feel 🙂 thanks!!
Post # 5
Definitely have your dad talk to her about the dress. You really don’t want her to show up in something similar to your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Besides, I am assuming she is a little old to be wearing a BM-type of dress:)
Post # 6
If they have been together for 10 years I think they fall into the category of having both names listed on the invitation. How would your mom know and would she really even care?
Post # 7
i think you should talk to her in person and not let it rest on your dad’s shoulders where something might get lost in translation…just explain to her calmly you r reasons and if she is a reasonable person then she will understand, perhaps you can offer to go dress shopping with her and help her pick out something special, even though you’d rather not spend time with her, you can suck it up now to aviod her wearing your BMs dress later!
Post # 8
i would talk to her personally about the dress like Ei said. you don’t want to risk anything getting lost in translation. maybe ask her if she would like to go looking for a dress for her together? that may help smooth things over.