Post # 1
My mom just stopped by for a viisit, which is rare..i havnt seen her in 5 months. Near the end of her visit, she noncheantly mentioned that my dad said he will not be coming to the wedding, I dont know if i am more angery or sad. I want to get mad and scream but I cant. I know me n my dad havent gotten along since i was 10, and i dont care much for him and he hates me and my 2 kids n my fiance. He wasnt going to walk me down the isle, i knew that from the beginning. But not to show up at all?? Any one else out there where their father made the conciouse decision not to show up to their wedding?
Post # 3
your Dad hates you? Man, I’m so…how does that even work? Actually, don’t answer that. Just know I’m very sorry to hear you’re going through this and if I could, I’d give you a big hug!
To answer your question, IDK whether my parents will be attending my wedding. They don’t hate me, but they are SO offended that we did not seek their blessing/permission before getting engaged (among other things) that they are trying to punish me by threatening not to come. My mother eventually asked me, in front of my Dad, whether I was going to have anyone walk me down the aisle (at this point, they were still saying they weren’t coming). So I nervously just kinda said “yeah, umm…I guess.” And she replied “well are you going to formally ask him or not?!” Wait, what? Formally ask the person who told me they weren’t coming? For what, so he can hurt my feelings again? I didn’t formally ask him (bc afterall, who formally asks their effing FATHER to walk them down the aisle? It should be a given) and we haven’t talked about it since. For all I know, neither of them will actually show up.
Post # 4
@Overjoyed: Hes never actually said he hates me he’s disowned me 3 times in the past 10 years and last hime he held his grand child he held her like a piece of garbage ( used 2 of his fingers under her armpits, she was a month old) and refuses to watch them or let my mom watch them. Besides that I never hear from him, not even on birthdays and he deliberatly took my mom and sisters camping on a mountian on christmas knowing full well that I couldnt get there and put my car in a junkyard. Its just the vibe i get from his actions towards me.
Awe=c that must feel so awkward, hopefully they come ( if you want them to that is) honestly im so glad im not the only one with parents that are being like this, makes me feel alot better thanks!