(Closed) My daughter claims she can’t read!

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace: Have you asked her why she says that?

Is she home schooled by herself or with others?

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace: Could she be saying she can’t read because her younger sister can’t? Sometimes it’s strange the way young kids minds work. She may not want to embarrass her sister.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could she be dyslexic?

Perhaps she is just going through a phase… or a bit of confusion

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is she seeking attention from others, but does not know how to start a new topic? Maybe you can give her other converstaion starts?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My stepdaughter does this. Something somewhere along the line took away her confidence in reading. She reads out loud when she’s alone but won’t in front of other people. She pretends to be struggling when she’s not. She was having issues with regression and does things like this when she wants attention. I think she’s scared to read in front of people so she’d rather just pretend she can’t so they’ll give her attention and basically read it for her. I think it’s just fear because reading keeps getting more and more challenging the more she learns. I would just ignore it and don’t push her to read in front of people until she becomes comfortable with it again. The more attention you put on it, the more she’ll say it.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I am a teacher, and sometimes I find that emerging readers are unsure of themselves, so she may be saying she can’t so people won’t ask her to read for them. 

Does she read on her own privately?  Do you hear her sounding things out on her own, or just when you prompt/ask her?  I bet a lot of it comes down to insecurity in her own abilities, because kids love to show off what they know, but if they’re unsure, they’ll downplay it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wonder also if she knows her little sister can’t read and get read to because of that fact.

As a home school parents I know it can be hard to draw the line between Mommy and teacher. Does she still get read to or is there a greater focus on her reading? I was not a strong reader when I was little, so my parents made me read 30 before bed every night. After I finished my reading time by myself, either my Mom or Dad would come in and read to me for 30 min. They did this all the way up through my 5th grade year.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you know for a fact that she can read (and actually read, not just recite what she has heard read), then I would ignore her behavior because I would bet big bucks it is attention seeking.  I’m a kindergarten teacher in a public school and I have seen this with stronger students who are jealous of the extra time I need to spend with struggling students… they’ll start pretending to have difficulty with concepts I know they mastered long before in hopes that I will start pulling them for extra help too.  I would suggest giving your older daughter attention when she demonstrates positive behaviors and completely ignoring her claims to be unable to read.  Once she is no longer getting a rise out of you, she’ll probably quickly tire of the charade.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

Maybe she doesn’t like the attention she gets when people tell her how great it is she can read?  Or maybe she was embarassed by someone’s reaction once?

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