- Miss Starlet
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
So, my five year old daughter was asked, last year, to be a Flower Girl in my ex’s cousins wedding, which is this coming Saturday. My ex is the best man.
The bride and I have never really clicked, but I’ve always gotten along fine with the Groom. The bride and I are just different types of people and I thought that we hd always just accepted that. I do not like the brides daughter, I think she’s mean spirited and she once, at a big cookout we were having, locked my older autistic daughter out of her own bedroom, causing me to remind the Bride that her daughter was a guest in my daughters home, and if she didn’t respect that, she wouldn’t be invited back. After that day, I never really wanted anything to do with them, but I was always as cordial as I could be.
My ex and I have been seperated for three years and I have always accepted that my daughter is part of THIER family. Even after the ex and I broke up, and the bride said really awful things about me (which I thought was really low, especially bc the groom was always telling the ex that if he didn’t straighten up and fly right he would lose me), I let it roll off my back. I’ve never made an issue of any of things that have happened in the past. In fact, when the groom and groomsmen were looking for suits, they called me to ask for my advice about what they should get. I suggested they call the bride, but they said they wanted my opinion. I thought that was strange.
So, now the wedding is on Saturday. I have been asking the ex what the heck is going on?? What does my daughter need for Saturday? Where will she be? Will she be fed? Is there a rehearsal dinner? How should I do her hair? What color tights and shoes does she need? Etc. etc. My ex keeps saying that he’ll have the bride call me, but she hasn’t. So yesterday, I told the ex that if I didn’t get some information, she would not be going. He called back and said that he talked to the bride and she said that it didn’t matter what shoes she wore and she didn’t care how I did her hair. He said that the bride said she trusted that I would make sure my daughter looked fine. That’s the only info I’ve gotten. Oh, and that he wants me to go pick her up when they’re done, disregarding the fact that I have plans since this was supposed to be his weekend with her.
Am I wrong to be frustrated? I don’t know if the issue here is with the bride or the ex. Should I send her with a couple of diffent tights and shoes and sweaters combos? I have no idea what she’s wearing or what her dress looks like. Also, should I go I go out of my way to pick her up or let the ex handle it? And does my daughter (therfore me) need to send a card or gift for the happy couple? I assumed that the ex would be responsible for that, but I could be wrong.