(Closed) My daughter needs a BRA!!!!!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
8936 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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scarcerayne:  I was shocked and dismayed at how hard it was to find training bras that weren’t padded. I can see some lining so nipples aren’t poking through, but why the hell do they even make full-on padded push-up training bras? Also, I’m sure you know this but if they’re actual hormonal breasts (as opposed to baby fat boobies) she is probably going to start getting periods within the year. So uhh… yeah. You’ve pretty much entered the 7th ring of hell. It should get better in 8 or 9 years so keep your chin up!


  • This reply was modified 5 years, 1 month ago by  Daisy_Mae. Reason: typo
Post # 3
1992 posts
Buzzing bee

LOL at the tags.

You sound like you know what’s coming and just need to vent about it. Carry on!

Post # 4
9427 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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(pun intended)

But seriously, everything will be fine ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sure you’re a wonderful mom who’s putting an amazing head on her shoulders. And you’ll be there to support and guide her through all of these changes. Just make sure that she sends any jerks packing.

Post # 5
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water

Haha!  Children grow up fast, don’t they?  We all make it through.  Hang in there!   

Post # 6
6420 posts
Bee Keeper

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scarcerayne:  I remember my 9 year old self, and while I didn’t have breasts just yet, I think I got them at 10, I was anything but excited about them.  None of my friends had them and worse of all, I hated shopping for them (I still do a decade and a half later).  But you can do it ๐Ÿ™‚  at least she’s excited about it.  I definitely wouldn’t worry about the matching panties though, I don’t even match.

Post # 8
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I developed super young, got my period at ten! 

Post # 9
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Does she know about periods and everything? Maybe you could slowly start talking about it so she’s not scared the first time it happens. Looks like you’ll have to have that talk soon anyway! May as well open the door so she knows she can come to you. 


Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
704 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I kinda wish my mom was as cool and open-minded as you when I started hitting puberty (we’re Asians, so yeahhh). ๐Ÿ™‚ Those were such awkward stages! I’m sure you’ll handle everything well. Good luck!

Anyway, I’d rather my future daughter be all super excited than embarrassed and quiet about buying bras (me! haha). 

Post # 11
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

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Daisy_Mae:  I started growing boobs at 11 but didn’t start my period until I was just shy of 14. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 12
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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scarcerayne:  Both of my girls started wearing bras at 9. The youngest is 9 now. I put her in sports bras. The 11 year old, who has a little more boob, is allowed to wear a little padding. Mainly because all the ones in her size only come that way.

I would go ahead and start working in the your body will change talks. Because I have the older daughter, my younger daughter already knows a good bit more than some 9 year olds. 

Also, the 11 year old is in 5th grade and they did the puberty class in health ed this year, the videos on this site are the ones they were shown. It actually told me some things I didn’t know, or had never thought about anyway. 


Post # 13
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Aww, good luck with what’s to come! It sounds like your daughter is having fun with it (there are very few fun things about being a tween so that’s good!) and you are being supportive, so puberty has started off right!

Post # 14
9523 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Man, I’m jealous. No bobbies for until I was in my late 20’s. In undergrad I would wear a padded sport bra because it gave me something. Good luck!! She is lucky to have such a concerned mom!

Post # 15
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I started wearing a bra when I was about 9, but I remember knowing exactly when my breasts were developing – I was 7. They ached, they felt lumpy and it was just such an alien time.

The BEST thing about all this was that I told my mum they were aching, and she was amazing. She told me all about boobs and that they were starting to develop, and we even went over to a family friend’s house, where the daughter was about 15 and we all sat down as girls and chatted about it and shared experiences. I will forever be thankful that my mother made me feel like talking about my bodily changes was the most normal thing in the world. 

From my position, I’d let her know that you are excited and happy with her, and not shocked or scared. Talk to her about boobs, and that whilst they’ll keep growing until she is 21, they’re doing all the prep work now. 

I got my period at 11, nearly 12, and because of my positive experience surrounding breasts I knew I could talk to mum about that. She immediately helped me out and showed me how to use pads etc, and it made us stronger.

She is going to need bras, and she is going to have sex (although not for a while!). I can imagine how terrifying it is to think about all that, but it’s life. I say share it! She will thank you for it and when she has a daughter she’ll be as great as you.

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