(Closed) My daughter needs a BRA!!!!!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 31
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Busy bee

I really don’t have an issue with matching providing they are age appropriate. I’ve bought my niece from the age of two ‘pretty undies’ she loved them . I would get her the ones with ponies or little hearts ect. 

shes not into training bras yet, but I don’t see why when she is all of a sudden it becomes sexual for her to think they are ‘pretty’ or cute. Let them have fun, get some colours or prints. Just as she would any other piece of clothing 

Relax mum she will be ok, you will get through this 🙂 

just be glad she’s comfortable with her body And talking to you about it. That’s a massive step in the right direction!

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I didn’t start developing until I was 14 and in high school…I remember being so embarrased in middle school when I noticed that all the girls in my gym class wore bras but me. My freshman year I started wearing training bras, and my sophmore year I graduated to “real” bras. My mom was NOT helpful at all, but she did get me “The Care and Keeping of You” in 7th grade, which helped me out a lot. It’s like she refused to acknowledge that she had a daughter, let alone one that was finally hitting puberty.

Your daughter is so lucky that she has an amazing, understanding mother! She’s probably scared of her body and the changes, just like I was. 

Good luck to both of you 🙂

Post # 33
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Sugar bee

My daughter started wearing a bra at 9. I just looked one day and there they were. D cup at 12 and now Dear Daughter at 15. You have no idea how difficult it is to find a D or a Dear Daughter in a 32! They usually start around 34 or 36 for those cup sizes. These days, they totally skipi the training bra stage.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

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CateM10:  Ugh I feel your pain. When I was in middle school it was the same thing. I had a group of popular, breasty girls approach me about it. “Why don’t you wear a bra?” “Because I don’t need one yet.” “Oh.. yeah, you’re right. You have nothing.” In front of everyone in the change room. Oh my God it was the most embarrassing moment of my life.

I was too embarrassed at that age to go to my mom and tell her I wanted to buy a bra. Especially having nothing to fill it with (I still don’t!). So I think it’s GREAT that you’re doing this for her now!

 

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

thelovebelow:  lol omg this had me laughing so loud in my office. Luckily for me im basically alone here today.

I don’t have a daughter but I have a 10 year old son and I am living in fear of hearing that first voice crack and seeing him turn into a nasty hairy pubescent man child.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

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stardustintheeyes:  Any day now. I called up the stairs to wake my son up for school this fall and some Barry White sounding voice answered “Here I come!” I stopped dead in my tracks. He’s 12. He never went through the cracking stage. He also sprouted about 4″ this school year and is looking me dead in the eye (I’m 5’6″) – He’s 5’8″ so I guess he’s actually looking DOWN on me. I’m soooooooo sad about this one because he’s the BABY. I’m going to miss that soft little skin.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee

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thelovebelow:  I can totally second The Care And Keeping of You as a great resource! It’s age appropriate without being vague or sugar coating puberty. The bras you got her look really comfortable and great for a kid to run around and play in–you can also see how she likes camisoles with built-in shelf bras. I wouldn’t shoot down the marching sets–I bet getting to wear a new cute bra that matches new cute underwear (with rainbows or froggies or whatever she likes) will help her feel confident about this transition, epesically of she’s one of the first in her circle of friends. 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

leilarobs2:  ummmm my son is 10 and he’s taller than I am. I’m only 5’1 but still!!!!! lol. He is about an inch or two taller than I am. He’s a solid boy too. he plays baseball so he has really broad strong shoulders already. I thought maybe I was imagining it but I swear he already sounds like his voice is dropping. 🙁 he’s my one and only. SO and I may have another one in the next couple of years. But as it stands he’s my only baby!!! I’m just not ready.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I was a C cup by the time I was 12. I didn’t get my period until I was 13, so you may have some time still. And my first sets were matching.  But they were the sports bra type and had a matching pair of granny panties.  I think I wore them as a set the first time, then I highly doubt it.  I was all about what was clean and first out of the drawer.  

I do remember going shopping for my C cup bra.  My aunt was there.  She was not particularly helpful.  First, we had to be in a real bra section, not the sports bra section I wanted.  And second, she kept picking out the most horrendously lacy things.  That was not me.  It still isn’t me.  I bought a green one with polka dots with the teensiest lace trim on the cup.  And a basic white one.  Done. It definitely wasn’t a sexual thing.  

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I started wearing training bras at about 9 and started my cycle at 10 and its exciting at that age as you get to be all grown up! I wanted to wear thongs so badly until i got one and then hated them! On the wanting to know about sex thing though my mum honestly did the best way with me and my brother. Sex was never taboo and we never had a “talk” about it she just casually mentioned sex related things for instance if a romantic scene was in a movie she’d say “i hope they use a condom so they dont catch anything” and i some how picked up everything i needed to know without ever having an embarrasing sex talk with her. It was genius!  

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Thinking back to puberty and getting periods made me think of Walt Disney’s The Story of Menstruation. I can’t help but like it, even though it has some poor/ridiculous messages. Makes me feel nostalgic though!

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