Post # 1
I just opened our laptop this morning and my husband had left a bunch of pages open before he fell asleep last night. As I went to close them all and open my email I noticed WeddingBee was open. I KNOW that I closed all of my windows last night when I was going to bed and I know what post I was reading last, so I looked into the browser history.
He looked through my profile and my post history!!
I don’t comment or post very often so there was nothing too incriminating for him to read but WTF!? I knew something was up bc the “What do you nag your SO about?” post was the page that was open and I had commented on that earlier in the night.
It looks like he wanted to know what we all talk about on here all day and what I decided to voice my opinion on. Good thing I spent most of the night reading the Mods questions posts which i’m sure were of no interest to him. But of course he wanted to read my response on the “Do you have a secret code when you want to get busy?” post.
So do you think I should confront him that I know he was looking on here? Should I leave it alone? Or should I make obscure comments on things and see if he checks again. LOL
Maybe when he gets up I’ll ask him if he wants to join the hive!
Post # 3
I’m not surprised my Fi is so annoyed with the bee in fact when he around I don’t log on anymore
Post # 4
@piglover: My husband threatens all the time that he’s going to make an account on here just to look up what I write. I get so secretive whenever he wants to see what I’m writing and sometimes he gets annoyed, like oh you’re on that website again. I would ask him about it if it were me, but not in an upset way, because truthfully I wouldn’t be upset.
Post # 5
lol my Fiance has checked out my post as well. It is a little weird but I guess he was just curious. He told me he was doing it too.
Post # 6
Thanks for the responses ladies! He thinks its weird that I’m still on here after we’re already married. I’ve tried to explain that the boards cover a wide range of topics and all of the ladies on here give great advice.
@TwoCityBride: I do the same thing! But he wasn’t home last night. He went to NYC with his cousin.. If you’re leaving me home alone all night why do you care what I do online!? Its not like I’m looking at weird porn or anything LOL.
@star_dust: Tell him he should! I always love to see the guys on here and hear their perspective!
@msapplebottums: You know if told me he was doing it I would’ve thought it was funny, and then shown him the parts of the boards I like to read, BUT I was sleeping..
Post # 7
My SO *better NOT* be stalking me, what with my secret plans. I’ve explicitly told him, “Do NOT cyberstalk me, or we will have problems.” he said he would never do that, has no interest in snooping on me and has total respect for my privacy. Phew!
In the past I had a boyfriend that kept me totally under his thumb, checked everything even my email, my text messages literally snatching my phone out of my hands, followed my online activity web history, and it really made me neurotic about my privacy after we broke up. So Mr. Bunny really understands that it would be god awful for him to cyberstalk me.
Post # 8
Mine knows I am on a site, but I dont want him to find me. After relentless pressure, I finally told him I was on The Knot and that my user name was something waaaay different than this one. HAHA! I know he searched and came up with nothing because he never mentioned it again.
Post # 9
LOL, this cracks me up. Usually my Fiance is just like ‘you’re on the board again?’
Yeah, pretty much how I say ‘you’re playing your video game again?’
=P But as far as I know he doesn’t look at what I post hahaha
Post # 10
Ahh! I have to watch out! If he stalks me, he’ll see my dress!
Although, sometimes I’ll comment below him on the message board he regulars to joke around (vacation related stuff)…; so I have some karma waiting for me!
Post # 11
This is funny to me. My husband knows I am on here all the time, but he is also on his forum all the time too. So he gets it.
Post # 12
i used to post under my real name…and then i realised i might want to be a little more anonymous. Theres nothing i wouldnt let him see if he explicitly asked, but i prefer that he doesnt read if – its a place for me to vent/ask advice/chat and id feel really inhibited if i knew he was reading every post!
Post # 13
@Omgbunnies: I totally get where you’re coming from. Darling Husband and I are very open with each other and I have nothing to hide from him. He wouldn’t know what the name of the site was if I wasn’t obcessively on here before our wedding.
@soyjoy222: You are too funny! What a great idea! It’s hard to miss the big weddingbee logo on the top of the page. I just never thought he actually had any interest in what goes on on here. I guess his curiosity just got the best of him.
Post # 14
@newname_99: exactly! That’s why in my OP I asked if I should just start making weird posts and comments to see if he brings it up.. LOL but then I will be branded a thread killer and I already have enough problems with that!
Post # 15
OMG biggest fear!!! Darling Husband has noticed recently how often I’m on WB and asks me “what are you posting about now?” I usually tell him waht the thread is about, and he’s not interested. Sometimes when it’s about in-laws, I “pad” the truth a little and say it’s about periods or yeast infections or something.
Once he was like “I’m going to sign up for wedding bee” and I FREAKED. I can’t have him on here looking at what I’ve written because I have vented some, uh, incriminating thoughts on his parents (to be fair, I’ve said all this to his face, but I know he probably wouldn’t like that I always particiapte in the “do you like your MIL/FIL/Inlaws” posts, etc.”. I don’t have a problem with him reading my responses to ANYTHING else, but oh god, the stuff about his family? Nooo way. Maybe that means I just shouldn’t post anything about them…but where else would I vent??
He once was messing around with my WB tab that was open and was reading the page with “recent replies”…I was in the kitchen and said “please don’t read any of those” and he said “i just want to know what you’re talking about!” so he asked me what my responses were to things like “what are the top 5 thigns you hope to accomplish in your life”. I don’t mind sharing that with him at ALL. But, I know that he mostly forgets about WB unless he sees me on it, so I know he’d never cyberstalk me, also because I’ve told him I wanted to keep it private. He’s like “WHY?” and I’m like uh where else can I talk about all kinds of girl things with impartial people?? And that usually satisfies him.
Post # 16
Oh man, that’s annoying. I won’t tell SO my username. He knows I’m on here all the time, but he doesn’t need to see what I write. I told him if he’s really all the curious he can ask me, but it’s just a bunch of wedding stuff.