(Closed) My DH needs a kick in the a** (long)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You need to definitely have a good, long talk with him about what pulling his own weight means. A marriage is about give and take, not take and take!

Yes, your daughters may not be his biologically, but he accepted the role of stepfather and provider, not moocher. It’s shameful that he is acting this way. You should also not fret over his commute to work if it’s truly walking distance. You just got married…has his behavior always been this selfish?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Have you talked to him about combining finances and getting a joint bank account?  i would definitely start there.  As for “helping” around the house, well it’s HIS house too!  Maybe ask him to load the dishwasher every night while you put the girls to bed, or helping with homework…

It might be that he just doesn’t know what needs to be done.  My Darling Husband is like that.  He doesn’t think about cleaning.  If I don’t tell him, “Hey, load the dishwasher,” it’s not going to get done.  🙂

Post # 5
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like he’s acting really immature and irresponsible.  I’m sorry I don’t have any great advice, but I think it’s an excellent idea to never drive him anywhere ever again (unless he shapes up).  I might also consider buying stuff he hates for dinner since he can’t be bothered to chip in for groceries.

Ok, now I’m being immature.  I suppose you need to just sit him down and talk to him.  Let him know what you expect to change – and what will happen if he doesn’t (that part is up to you).  He needs to know that his behaviour is unacceptable.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Juliepants:  Immature?  Pfft I was going to suggest not doing his laundry (including his stinky bath towels) and putting crumbs on his side of the bed!  😉

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Uh yes.  If you want to keep finances separate, fine.  But if you need help with paying the bills he should be MORE THAN WILLING to help.  You’re a partnership now, not two individuals vying for yourselves.

I think his behavior is actually quite selfish.

Post # 9
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4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ricangen81:  Oh hell no.  He needs to come off your account then.  This is completely one sided & not fair.

Post # 13
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2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Achk, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. 🙁

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