- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016 - Laguna Beach
We got married on April 16th and I cannot believe it is over! What a blast.
My now DH and I were engaged for more then a year, and right off the bat, it was so important that our wedding was unique to us. I had a million ideas and more then a year to fine tune them. Which was a good thing – through wedding planning, I discovered that I am great at being creative and pretty terrible at the logistics. We also didn’t want to spend a ton of money (despite having our wedding in Laguna Beach, CA).
We DIYed the backdrop, dip-dyed napkins, all the flowers, seating chart/signs, and garlands. I loved having my weekend wedding projects. We hired a day-of coordinator and she handled all set up. I did go to the venue in the morning (my hotel was across the street) just to drop off some last minute things. We had 80 guests.
My DH was staunchly against doing a first look, so I had written out a photo list and my coordinator created an itinerary of who has to be where and when. We planned on doing the majority of the photos during the cocktail hour. That would have all worked out perfectly in an ideal world…but we know how that goes. We asked DH’s cousin to be our officiant. He flew in from NY and we were seriously so happy. But as we’ve never planned a wedding before, we left a lot up to him. We provided the general outline. Our ceremony was beautiful. A friend did a reading, DH’s cousin had some really meaningful things to say. And then he had all 80 of our guests stand up and circle us for the ring ceremony right through the end. We had no idea that was going to happen. It was incredibly powerful and moving. We kissed, he announced us as husband and wife (or maybe the other way around? not sure!) and then both DH and I were basically mobbed by our friends and family. My fun recessional dreams were totally gone. I literally had a line of people waiting to hug and kiss me. DH grabbed my hand and pulled me out to the back patio, where we finally had a moment alone and our photographer got some shots. It was crazy. I have never felt so loved and overwhelmed and emotional, all at the same time. We ended up attending our cocktail hour (which was awesome! bacon wrapped dates yasss) but I think we missed out on some photos for sure.
It was an amazing night. Our siblings gave amazing speeches (my sis made me cryyy), my father did his infamous toast, people raved about the food and cake, and the bartender made sure we always had drinks in our hands. The weather was gorgeous. I was worried about my Mother-In-Law being a handful (to put it nicely) – nope, she was great. Our families had a wonderful time hanging out and the dance floor was full all night. We even brought out a birthday cake for my dad’s 65th birthday that was the next day.
Did things go wrong? Uh yep. The DJ couldn’t find my processional song and my coordinator, for some reason, made me walk in. It was silent. Then the crowd cheered, so I walked into cheers. If I really dwell on that, I get bummed. I was so focused on where’s the music?? that I didn’t look at my DH until I was right in front of him. But we’re happily married. The rental company brought the wrong water glasses (they were supposed to be pink), but no one knew or cared. The tassel garlands fell down randomly. The uplighting was a bit too pink for my tastes. It was really warm in my hotel room so my bouquet bloomed way more then planned (but I had peonies yay!) The music is probably the biggest thing….but it can’t be changed!
One other thing…as you can see, I was a plus size bride. I had big aspirations of losing a bunch of weight before the wedding. I was so scared to go dress shopping, because I thought I’d look like a huge white lump. But I found I dress I LOVED and felt beautiful in. Losing weight didn’t really happen. And that’s ok! My DH, family, and friends know what I look like. And they were happy for me! I felt confident on my wedding day and I am so happy I didn’t let any insecurity ruin that.
My words of wisdom: enjoy it all because it goes so fast. Easier said then done, I know! Also, be super specific in what photos you want. I assumed I would get shots of the details, but nope.