- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
So when I first met my DOC I thought she was GREAT! She responded to my emails within an hour or two, was really responsive and excited. In the past month or so before my wedding its been causing me more anxiety than relief. I emailed her maybe 5 weeks before my wedding to meet at the venue to discuss everything and so she can see the venue. She emails late morning of the day we are supposed to meet and asks if I can postpone. I can pick any day of the week two weeks later. She was supposed to show me sample chair cover sash colors, and asked me for my address to send them. Thought it was weird since she should already have my address, right?? I get the swatches about 2 weeks later (a couple days before we meet) and have to email her to bring more because none of the colors are what i wanted.
Fast forward to our meeting. She has color swatches, goes over the itinerary that I’ve created since I needed one for vendors/family sooner than when we met, even though it says in her package that she will create one for me. It didn’t even seem like it was on her “schedule” to make me a timeline because she just says “ooohh…I like an organized bride”. So we talk about how I don’t really need her at the rehearsal or the church because the church has a Sexton who is in charge of the ceremony. So she asks if she can do anything else for me besides my list, and I asked if she could take my favors because I can’t leave anything at the venue that is perishable. She said, “of course” and we plan to meet the following Wednesday since she would be around my area anyway. Well I call her that Wednesday to confirm, and she goes “Oh…I forgot.” She did have an excuse though, that her husband was in the ER the night before and asked if we could reschedule because she needed to go to the hospital again. I agreed to that Friday because she was decorating another wedding and would be done around 5-6pm so she would call me after she was done to come stop by.
Along comes Friday. I have errands, but since I have to meet her at my place I went straight home. 7pm comes around and I haven’t heard from her so I called and got her voicemail. So I left a message asking when she would be stopping by. 8pm comes around and no reply. I call again and leave a very frustrated message saying that she obviously forgot and if there was a time that worked FOR HER. She calls back in 2 seconds and says “whats up”. I am frustrated and tell her I’m upset because she said she was going to be here around 5-6pm and this is the second time she’s basically forgotten about me. She says she is still decorating and didn’t forget but will be done soon and would be able to swing by around 10pm at the earliest. 10PM! I said that wasn’t going to work because I would be in bed and didn’t want to wait up. She said I could pick any day the next week for her to pick up my favors since the wedding was close. I was still mad so I said I’ll figure it out and let her know.
My Fiance agreed to drop them at the reception that morning instead of the DOC picking them up. So I texted her saying that he would drop them off. She thanked me and said she was sorry and that its been a crazy week and she would never intentionally stand me up. So I said I would have appreciated a phone call/text to tell me she would be that late. Come on!
So its 5 days before my wedding, and she had said in our meeting that she would go over everything and email all the questions that we had come up with. She didn’t, so I emailed her this morning with answers to everything that I could remember and asked her if there were any other questions she had. No response yet…
If you’ve gotten to the end of this thank you for reading my rant. Am I just being crazy and not be stressed? I just feel now I can’t fully trust her and I feel like I’m not important at all to her. Just another crazy annoying bride. Should your DOC make you feel like this?