(Closed) My doctor said I'm too fat…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@figgnewton:  Find a new doctor. I’m serious. You need someone who can focus on the reality of your body and your pregnancy, not on a fantasy world where people weigh an exact amount according to a chart.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My OB said the same thing to me. I’m 6’1″ and was 5 pounds (!!) “overweight”. Subtract half my boobs….there’s your 5 pounds. On someone of my height, 5 pounds isn’t even visible…I have to lose 20 to go down a dress size! Be confident in your own body, and don’t let bad doctors push you around!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I am currently pregnant and also over weight.

Since you are just TTC right now, I would try going on a healthy diet to lose some weight before becoming pregnant.

Some over weight pregnant women are able to lose weight, but most likely your doctor would want you to try and maintain your weight while pregnant.

Although I have gained weight during my pregnancy, it has been a low-moderate weight gain. I am 25w5d and I have only gained 13lbs so far.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@figgnewton:  Holy crap I don’t know what kind of doctor you’re seeing but that’s crazy. I guess it depends on your body type, but I’m only 5’1″ and when I weighed 135, I wasn’t anywhere near fat. In fact I’ve only dropped about 10 lbs, so it’s really not that far off for me! 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You should not try to lose weight while pregnant, but you can work on losing some weight while you are trying. A good diet will be good for both you and baby and moderate exercise now will make for an easier pregnancy and labor.

I’d find a doctor who cares about your weight but isn’t judgmental about it. It is a reality that it’s better that you no be so overweight when you get pregnant, but being on your case about your weight isn’t going to help.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@figgnewton:  New doctor, pronto. You don’t need one to guilt you into weight loss, but rather to be supportive of what you’re trying to do.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

135lbs for 5’2″ is too fat?? Is this doctor taking in to account muscle? 

I agree with PP, find a new doctor. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@figgnewton:  No.  I never went through that and neither should you.  NO doctor should call a patient fat.  Please find a new doctor.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ouch. I would find a new OBGYN. that is rude.

However, being overweight causes complications in conception and pregnancy. It is easier to lose weight before getting pregnant and being in good shape/healthy makes for an easier pregnancy. 110 may not be realistic (I’ve never seen that number and never intend to!), but trying to lose weight in a healthy manner before conceiving might be beneficial to your health and your baby’s health. (That is if your current lifestyle isn’t healthy– if you are eating right and exercising, then go for it now).

When a friend of a friend went in for her pre-conception check up she was about the same height and weight as you. She didn’t really exercise and ate more processed food than she should. Her OBGYN politely said to lose 20 pounds before going off the pill and then keep working to get another 20 off. She did it with slightly healthier eating and 30 minute walks which turned into couch to 5k. She dropped 30 lbs before getting pregnant, kept up the exercise, had a beautiful baby, and now is having an easier time losing the baby weight. She will never be tiny– it isn’t her bone structure or goal.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Get a new doctor. Problem solved.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@figgnewton:  Yes! I tried so many OBGYNs when I was in school, had a cancer scare and was forced to see a male. He is great and I will never go back. He is much less judgemental about some things, but still cares about my weight and what I eat. Of course he made a comment when he realized I ate an entire bag of sour gummy bears in the waiting room, but he cared enough to ask about my diet and exercise overall. He found out that I balanced it out by running and eating really healthy most days. The gummy bears were just my treat for having to be prodded that day 🙂

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