Post # 1
I just started going to a new family doctor and he is very understanding of my situation of being pregnant after repeat pregnancy losses. He even told me that him and his wife have gone through a very similar situation and had several miscarriages before conceiving their four children.
One thing he mentioned is that we should not be having intercourse. He said that if you have a history of miscarriages it’s not safe to have intercourse during pregnancy, especially up until week 24. He said that in the first trimester it’s very dangerous and in the second trimester it’s not quite as dangerous but it’s still pretty risky. He said that until fairly recently, sex during pregnancy was considered safe but there are new studies that show that’s not true. I haven’t heard this before and I’m guessing it only applies to women with repeat miscarriages and not your average pregnant woman. I want to do everything in my power to prevent another miscarriage but no sex for the next 17 weeks is going to be REALLY difficult, especially for my poor DH! Has anyone else been told not to have intercourse while pregnant?
Post # 3
@As_You_Wish: Hey lady! It’s good to hear from you! I find this very interesting! I haven’t been told by my doctor (yet) not to, I go see him on Tuesday. I am definitely going to ask him about it. However, my DH has not even so much as touched me since finding out I am pregnant again. (It’s been almost two weeks, but who’s counting? lol) He said no sexy times until it is ‘safe’. I don’t think he was thinking 19 weeks though! Yikes! I am commenting so I can come back to read others’ response!
Post # 4
I guess I could see it….If sex near your due date can help bring about labor (contractions) wouldn’t it make sense that the same spasms which occur during orgasm could cause a miscarriage?? Interesting idea. Good luck with TTC!
Post # 5
My family doctor said the same thing, and I was a low risk pregnancy. In particular, she advised to avoid it in the first trimester.
Post # 6
I would ask him to give me the references so that I could look up the studies.
Post # 7
I’m not familiar with this research but if there’s a chance it would help, it’s worth it isn’t it? I promise you it’s possible to go without sex for that long, or even longer, especially for such an important reason. I’m not familiar with your history but if you’ve had repeat miscarriages I’m sure you want to do all that’s in your power to prevent that. Good luck with your pregnancy!
Post # 8
and then make sure those articles are blind, controlled with a large number of participants. often journals will publish articles that aren’t great – like a dr (they have to contribute tresearch to maintain registration) may just write a quick case study of say 3 patients who miscarried sometime after sex. That wouldn’t be very convincing.
Post # 9
I’d want to see multiple studies before I believe this.
Post # 10
I’m not sure I buy this, my doctor hasn’t said this. She did however warn that sometimes sex in early pregnancy can cause spotting and if the spotting worried me to avoid it for a little bit. But otherwise I don’t see how sex can hurt.
Post # 11
Geeze, I’ve never heard this before, but since finding out we were pregnant, my husband has turned down all of my begging and pleading for sex. lol……and it’s not because he’s online reading current findings and studies on sex and pregnancy…..he keeps saying, “My son is in there!!”. And yes, we just found out the sex of the baby, so it’s been THAT long since we’ve had sex!!!!
Post # 12
@As_You_Wish: I also had 3 miscarriages after my first pregnancy, we went on to have another 2 babies. I avoided sex for the first 20 weeks, when the preganancy was settled and I felt the baby. There are other things you can do keep your DH happy.
Post # 13
@jpalm13: I don’t think it’s the contractions that bring on labour at the end of pregnancy, I believe it’s the prostaglandins in sperm that help to ripen the cervix… At least that’s what they told us at our antenatal class last week.
@As_You_Wish: congrats on your pregnancy, I’ve seen your story on here over the last months and have fingers and toes crossed for you! I have never heard of such a long abstinence, but have never been in your position either. I’d be looking for more evidence, myself, because I think a happy and healthy relationship between husband and wife is really important during pregnancy, and sex is one part of that. But I also understand not wanting to do anything to jeopardise this either. All the best!
Post # 14
@hiheel: Thanks for sharing your story. I’m glad you were able to go on and have a healthy pregnancy.
@hamikay: Thanks for the congrats. 🙂
I tend to believe this doctor more than just any medical professional because him and his wife have personally dealt with several miscarriages. He seemed a lot more knowledgeable about TTC and things that go along with it like progesterone levels, etc. than even my OB/Gyn.
Believe me, I don’t want the “no sex” thing to be true. Being pregnant again is so stressful and I really appreciate that intimate, alone time with my husband. Also, DH planned a romantic getaway this weekend because it’s our one year anniversary. I’m sure we can still have a great time without intercourse but it would have been nice. 🙂
Post # 15
@beyblade1120: I too would ask to see the studies.
Do remember though that he said he doesn’t recommend intercourse. he didn’t say no sex.
You can still keep hubby happy with blow jobs, hand jobs etc etc .
Post # 16
I’d talk to an ob about this & look into these “studies”. Seems like there’s a lot of studies out there that don’t mean much.