Post # 1
Has anyone else lost a family member some time before their wedding? My 16 year old baby girl, Kitty, a cockapoo, who I have had since she was a puppy, passed away while we were away at our wedding vacation. It was supposed to be the happiest time of my life, and it wasn’t. I miss her so much.
We arrived in Mexico on January 6th, to be married January 11th. We received a call from the kennel on January 8th that my dog, Kitty, has stopped eating and that they took her to an emergency veterinary clinic. I was in shock. She passed away on her own terms several hours later that day from kidney failure. I felt very helpless and far away from her… wishing I could be there to comfort her. For the next 2 days I barely left my hotel room. I couldn’t eat or see any of our wedding guests. My parents, my husbands parents, and some cousins and aunts and uncles came to Mexico for our wedding. We had thought to postpone the ceremony but we were convinced by our parents that the show must go on and people came all the way here to support us. I pulled myself together for our wedding day and got married to the love of my life. Our trip was for 11 nights but we wanted to go home after the wedding. It was not easy to change our flights without paying, so we stayed the whole time. A tropical all-inclusive resort is no place to properly grieve. It was horrible.
The wedding was beautiful, however now when I look back at pictures and hear music from our wedding day, I cannot help but feel sadness. Will the sadness ever be replaced by happy feelings? To make things worse, Kitty was cremated on our wedding day. Our wedding anniversary is tainted. I feel like I will never overcome this. I’m having regrets for booking the wedding vacation when I did, thinking that I could have been with her. Has this happened to anyone or anyone you know? Can anyone give me some advice? I miss her dearly.
I know this post is long…Thank you for reading.
Post # 3
…I’m so sorry about your baby, dogs are the best people, aren’t they? And while the timing was certainly less than ideal and losing a pet is so very hard, you benefit nothing from allowing her passing to eclipse the joy and happiness of your wedding day….Your parents were right to urge you to get married, and I sincerely hope you can get past this difficult time….it’s hard with dogs anyway, because I always find I have so much to say, and I wonder if they understand, but come to realize they always knew anyway…dogs are special like that.
If it were me, and I hope to god it never is, I would gather up some of her favorite things, and put them in a box to be put away someplace safe….take a walk on our favorite trail or go sit in her favorite spot in the house, tell her all the things I need to say, have faith that she always knew anyway, cry my eyes out and start each day with the hope that it will hurt less, as the days go by, because it will.
Post # 4
I am so so sorry to hear this. My mini poo Bailey is truly one of the greatest loves of my life and I can’t even begin to imagine what you must be feeling.
With that being said, I want to let you know that your heart will heal. Just think.. babygirl probably loved her mama so much that she waited until she knew you were taken care of by hubby and she could leave you in good hands. She even got to be with you for your wedding day.
Maybe on your one year anniversary you can have somewhat of a redo where you celebrate the life of Kitty and renew your vows with happy memories.
Post # 5
Oh, this just breaks my heart. I once had a cat with kidney failure- we had no idea anything was wrong until the day before he passed. He was very strong and lived a very happy, fulfilled life. It was a very quick passing, so he didn’t feel much pain. I think your kitty was probably the same- very happy and strong until the very end. She would want you to be happy. Even though nothing makes the pain go away, it does get better in time. *HUG*