My dogs are making me regret my marriage.

posted 6 months ago in Pets
Post # 136
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

averagegirl :  What’s wrong with you, if can even ask that question?

Post # 137
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

picturemeurs :  He loses.  When you wish for death, of something your spouse loves, how do you back-peddle that?

Post # 138
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Helper bee

Sorry for what’s happening to your animals, bee. I am a huge fan of animals and every time some one wants to dump their animals, I end up getting them. Unlike me, my mother like anmals from a distance. She donates to them every month but is not nice to them when she ends up sharing space with them. 

We have a special needs cat who we love. We had to adjust to his needs at first but I cannot imagine making him feel miserable about himself. I taught him to walk on a leash, high five, shake hands and do many other tricks. He is so adorable that we focus on his positive features. 

Right now, I am concerned about your animals. Do they know that this guy hates them? Are they physicaly abused? Are they better off living with some one else? Does the tension between you and your husband bother them?

I think you should take your husband to an animal shelter and show him how animals live there and ask him if that is what he wanted for your animals. May be show him some great features of your animals. For exmaple, can your dogs shake hands? May be he will start to like them. But if the situation persists, you will have to choose between your animals and your husband. 

The lead character in a hallmark movie called “My boyfriends’ dogs” has a similar situation to you at some point in the movie. I would recommend that you watch it because I think it may help you with your situation. 

Post # 139
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Wow this thread. Nothing to add that hasn’t already been said, but I’m going to go snuggle my dog now.

Post # 140
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

Didn’t read the whole thing,  don’t have time for that. But the title is hella awkward. It looks like it’s your husband that’s making you regret not the poor dogs?

 

Post # 141
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Bumble Beekeeper

sentimentalgirl :  

I am so sorry OP. You must have been blinded by love to marry a man  who doesn’t just not care for dogs but seems  to actively  dislike them , to the point of not giving a toss about their welfare  

That he could say  to you  that he can hardly wait 12 years for them to die and to make you leave them behind when going for a  hike !!!  is, for me  utterly insuppportable . (Frankly I would simply  not accede to the latter ridiculous demand ) 

As a  pp said, it’s not the dogs that are making you regret your marriage, it’s  your husband.

Dealbreaking attitudes and behaviour for me , sorry OP. I think you either need to find your dear dogs a home  where they will be welcomed and treated right , or they  AND  you find one together. 

Post # 143
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yes, do check in, OP, and let us know that you and the pups are ok.

The Bees who are taking up for the husband seem to be missing a few significant details. My suggestion would be to go back and reread the first post. 

This is not good guy. This is a potentially dangerous guy, not only to the dogs.

For those who think everything will be sunshine and pink unicorns if OP gives up one of her beloved dogs—any recommendations as to how to do that? People don’t exactly lined up around the block.

If you think that would solve any of their problems, no, it won’t.  Guaranteed. The husband will get worse.  Giving up one of the dogs is a major victory for the husband. He’ll really be feeling his power.

As for those who advise keeping the parrot outdoors, parrots are tropical birds.

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