Post # 1
This is my first post on here. I finally decided to join because I did so much lurking, so here goes.
We are paying for everything ourselves so we are on a very tight budget ($3000 total for everything), so I have to be extremely thrifty about things. I wanted to get my venue/date nailed down first so I could have a good idea of the space we will be working with but I live in a wealthy area and nothing was even remotely in my price range. I finally found the Zedler Mill in Luling, TX and it has everything I was looking for. Pretty rock ampitheater seats in front of the river for the ceremony, and then an awesome pavillion that can be either open air or closed depending on the weather. Bathrooms, tables, chairs, an outside courtyard, a dance floor, and a huge kitchen are included, and we can get it for $500 on a Monday.
However, I have some problems. Is that too far for guests to drive? It’s all been locals who have been complaining about the possible drive time and say that we won’t be able to get anyone to come or transport what we need, etc etc. 2/3 of our guest list will be coming from out of state so I didn’t think it mattered if it was right next to our house or not.
Also, even though it is $500 to rent for the night, there is a $1000 refundable deposit. Is this too much to spend on a deposit??(because I have to consider it an expense since we are still paying for it in the months leading up to our wedding.)
SHould I listen to the nay sayers and find a less than ideal venue that’s closer or go with my gut and keep what we have and just work around these issues?? I absolutely love it and am willing to scrimp on other parts of the wedding to have a good location. I also think that since the ceremony and reception are in one place it saves on some travel time too…. and expense for us!
Post # 3
@Equine_Breeder: As far as the distance, i think as long as you send out Save the Dates alerting future guests that your venue will be in that particular area, you shouldn’t have a problem!
Post # 4
How early should I send them for a wedding this October?
Post # 5
If there is a hotel near by, I would reserve a block of rooms. That way people can decide to stay closer or make the drive. Their choice 🙂
Post # 6
I say send out STD’s as soon as you have the venue booked. Others say 6 months out. I think the more notice, the better (especially if many are coming from out of state).
Post # 7
I think as long as there is a hotel nearby you’re fine.
Post # 8
I posted something similar to this a while back. I was worried about making everyone drive the distance. Everyone told me that its normal to drive 2-3 hours for a wedding. Our potential venues are both 2-2.5 hours away from where we live. It’s YOUR day, go with your dream venue!!! 🙂
Post # 10
I turned down a beautiful venue because it was too far away. I didn’t want my guests having to travel to my state THEN drive for 1.5 to get to the wedding. I also didn’t feel like dealing with “I’m lost!” phone calls the day of the wedding or “OMG! I left the (fill in the blank with something important) at home! Can someone run and get it!?”
My current venue is 20 minutes away from my house and right in the city center.
If you want the space, then notify people as much as possible and arm them with maps, directions, phone numbers.
Post # 11
I’d do the drive! My friends got married north of Santa Barbara last year. I was living in LA- it took more than 2 hours… The brides lived in OC- 3+hours away.
We drove up Friday and stayed the night and had to drive back the night of the wedding because I needed to be somewhere early Sunday morning. It was no problem!
I recommend asking some of your potential guests/bridal party… Especially the extra fussy ones. See what they say.
Post # 12
@Equine_Breeder: This is almost word for word our wedding situation! While I haven’t gotten much flack about the distance, ours is also 1.5 hours from our home and we are saving a ton of money by holding it there…plus we LoVe the site! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it at all, but I could be a little biased 😉 Considering that you’re about 7 months out from the wedding, I say go ahead and send the STD’s if you’re able to do so. Bottom line: while the location may be slightly inconvenient for some people, the ones who truly love and care about you guys will make the extra effort to be there with you on your special day – especially given that you’re giving such a good heads up. You said yourself that you love the space so do what YOU want! It’s your day and those that matter the most will be there to share it with you.
Post # 13
I would be less concerned about the 1.5 hour drive and more concerned about it taking place on a Monday. For me that may be the deal breaker. Is there ample accommodation near the venue? That’s something to remember, as most people probably won’t want to drive 1.5 hours home after drinking.
Post # 14
Thanks for the replies everyone! I agree that the Monday thing is a potential issue, but with advanced STD’s then at least people can plan to make it or not. I figured with it being on a Monday, those that are driving from out of state can at least have a few days to get here and not miss work. It’s not ideal, but being on a budget means sacrifice. :/
I was planning on blocking out rooms close to the venue and then in downtown San Antonio for those flying in. We are probably not serving alcohol (or beer/champagne at most) so I’m not too concerned about that. This way, those flying in have a place to stay right next to the airport (and only an hr away from the venue, so it takes 30 mins off the drive) and those that drive have a place close to the event.
Post # 15
I’m worried about the same thing. I’ve asked a few people on my invite list and they’ve also said that for your wedding, the people that love you will make it as long as they have ample notice. Your wedding seems far enough out that people can plan to take a day and half off to drive a few hours to see you get hitched. Hope it all goes well!
Post # 16
Wait, Texans are complaining about a 90 minute drive? Isn’t that just a trip to the grocery store for y’all? (I was born in Ft. Worth so I am allowed to make fun.)
I don’t think the location is an issue. Monday will be an issue for some people, but you’re on a tight budget, and I’m sure they understand that.