Post # 1
Let me start out by saying I am totally indecisive and a total impulse buyer!
Technically I think I am a 4 dress bride :/ To make it better I only have paid for 3 and will be wearing two of them:)
Before trying on dresses I found a few dresses on lightinthebox.com that I loved and thought I would get. I ended up ordering 1 after my 2nd dress fitting and LOVED it! Dress #1 from lightinthebox.com for the Bahamas.
My 2st dress shopping experience (#1 IMO doesn’t count I didn’t like anything) I was looking for 2 dresses and didn’t plan on actually buying anything just wanted to see how everything fit on my shape. I ended up LOVEING 2 dresses and didn’t know what to do. I decided to put an Alchemy listing on Etsy to have the two combined when it arrived I HATED IT. I could not wear that dress. (You might remember that post) Dress #2 Hate It- It’s for sale if anyone’s interested 😉
Decided I need to go back and try on one of the 2 dresses again along with lots of others. They didn’t have a lot of the ones I wanted to try on at the store so we just tried on “similar” (they were not similar). The original one I loved they didn’t have in the right size so I wasn’t really feeling the same love as I did before. My mom ended up loving a different dress (moms 1st time dress shopping with me) I LOVED the front but wasn’t too keen on the back but we ordered it anyway! Dress #3- Mom loves it!
For the past few weeks I had been really considering calling to try to change the order. Saturday I get an email that it came in (2+ months early) We go to pick it up and the store manager is the one helping me and we unzip the bag and the dress has SILVER beading on it (I DO NOT WANT THAT I HAVE ONE AT HOME WITH SILVER) I don’t know if it was the lighting or what when I originally looked at it but I would not be keeping that dress. The store manager was EXTREMELY NICE and just wanted me to be happy, we ended up finding the dress I originally wanted in store in my size and we put it on and I loved it she just makes an even swap and I am on my way! Dress #4- LOVE it
My advice for the indecisive bride like myself:
Wait until you NEED to order a dress
Take a night to think about it
Don’t keep buying dresses
When you think you LOVED a dress before you probably do and will end up with it in the end
Post # 3
I love this post. So honest and we all have a little “four dress bride” inside of us, trying to get out. This made me laugh out loud. You are too cute! I can’t decide either, and although I haven’t purchased the dress I “think” I want right now, I imagine I’ll end up with it, or something similar, in the end.
Post # 5
Great advice!! I change my mind daily, and have already made the mistake of buying one dress that I am now no longer interested in. I think all brides-to-be need this advice.
Post # 6
AMEN to stop looking! I have my dress ready to go, but I fell in love with a short tea length dress at David’s IN THE WINDOW the other day. I had to just keep driving. lol
Post # 7
Wow 4 dresses– I think (and hope) that’s a record!
I’ve always like Randy’s (from SYTTD) rules of wedding dress shopping:
1. Don’t try on dresses that are outside your budget
2. Don’t keep secrets from your bridal consultant
3. Once you find THE dress, stop shopping
4. Leave the entourage at home
and my personal fave…
5. ALWAYS wear underwear (lol)!!
Post # 8
I am so glad you posted this and I feel better knowing that I am not the only one. I was on my way to be coming a 4 dress bride. So far the most I’ve had is 2 at once and I have 9 months to go. Luckily, I was able to sell my 2nd one at cost. I still have my first one that I still find pretty but have doubts that it will fit my theme. I change my mind about it daily…sigh.
I continue to look and will continue to try them on but have vowed not to buy another until I am at my ideal weight (my estimate is November/December). I’m not usually a window shopper but I can’t help myself for these dresses. There are just so many to choose from and only one opportunity to wear one.
Post # 9
LOL, I am a three dress bride and wore two of them so I’m glad someone beat me. Although there were two other dresses that I put small deposits on and then forfeited them.. And in the end, I STILL did not find my dream dress (but liked the ones I bought enough) . Glad you found yours!
I am so glad I am now married and never have to shop for a wedding dress again.
Post # 10
I am a 3 dress bride.. So far! But am now trying to sell the 3rd so I can buy a forth & seriously considering buying a fifth because I can’t decide between the 4th & 5th! Nightmare..
I wish I had read this when I first got engaged!!
Our engagement is 18 months, so my idea of my ‘ideal gown’ has changed a lot throughout this time. 1st dress was way too casual in hindsight and had regrets about not buying a ‘classic’ wedding dress. So I sold it at a loss. 2nd dress I bought at a sample sale, loved it but decided it wasn’t the right one either. Sold it and made a profit. Now I have my third dress for sale (Atelier Aimee) which I bought on Preownedweddingdresses.com because when it arrived it was too short! (I’m tall!)
4th is a beautiful Alan Hannah dress which I’ve posted about before, 5th is a preowned Melissa Fern. I really want to make the right decision this time and be done with it.. My wedding is now 7 months away & I’ve got other things to get organised in this time.
So yea – totally agree with this advice – research and then stop looking! Now, if I could only follow it myself..
Post # 11
Loved your story! I am a 3 dress bride. #1 came from David’s Bridal–I felt pressured to buy something while my mom was in town. #2 also came from David’s Bridal, although they let me exchange #1. #3 came from yourdreamdress.com–an Anne Barge at an unbelievable price. I hope to sell dress #2!
Indecisive brides – read and heed misshelleez advice!
Post # 12
Thank you for this. I haven’t bought a dress….yet. I simply can’t decide but keep going back to a particular dress time and time again. Then I second guess the dress and go through the cycle again. UGH.
Stop looking — got it!
Post # 13
Thanks for the advice! I just bought my dress today, and am going to try really hard to stop looking! I can’t afford to buy another. ^^;