- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
This post is a vent, and an opportunity for other bees to share similar experiences. Please don’t provide diet and work out tips, I have some long term issues surrounding this type of thing.
I (like many plus size brides before me) had to order my gown without trying it on, relying on the sales assistant to take good measurements and trusting their judgement.
After 6 months, my dress came in, and I went in store to try it on. I was nervous that it wouldn’t look good, but not worried that it wouldn’t fit because of the ‘expert measurements’.
It didn’t fit. It wouldn’t zip up. I was horrified and mortified. I’ve been trying (and failing) to lose weight, so I know that I’ve only gained about 4kg since I bought my dress which on me (I’m tall and large framed) is not very much weight. I couldn’t understand why it wouldn’t fit, until they gave me the measurements of my dress – 48inch bust. I am a 16H bra size – there is no way I’ve ever been a 48 inch bust.
I’m so upset that they ordered this size dress for me, and when I communicated this to them, they just said oh you’ve gained weight, and when I told them I knew how much I’ve gained, they shifted the issue again, saying that I should have checked my measurements etc.
THEN it shifted to the shaming, saying oh, it’s just a couple of inches, you can lose it, just don’t eat very much, oh you shouldn’t have eaten lunch today! Just have fruit for dinner etc. It was humiliating.
Just because I’m a plus size girl doesn’t mean I should be treated like this. From the outset, I NEVER wanted to buy a dress in a smaller size, because I don’t want that kind of pressure on myself. I’m so angry that this has happened, and that I don’t have any time to fix it. All I can do is lose weight, and I’ve never been good at it in the past. And I didn’t want to have to.
I can’t even tell my parents about it. They have been (quite vocally) disgusted with my weight my entire life, and this would give them such a fantastic opportunity to stick one in.
Now my only options are to lose the weight or to put in a corset back, which I absolutely don’t want to do. I spent $3500 on a dress only to be shamed for my size and end up with a dress that doesn’t fit.
Has anybody else had any similar situations? How did you deal with it?