- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016 - Rock Island Lake Club
I got the email yesterday that my dress is available for pick up. I was soooooooo excited!! I immediately let my Mom and bridal party know the great news. My party was equally excited, asking when I would be picking it up… some asked if they could go with me. My Mom on the other hand gave me a very bland “that’s great” answer.
Before I go any further, a little background. My Mom and Step Dad offered to pay for my wedding. I orginally wanted to just go to City Hall and say “I do”, sign the papers and live happily ever after. My Mom told me she did not want me to do that, and instead told me she would pay for a venue, DJ, flowers, photographer, my dress and shuttles. We decided to go look at a venue, we all fell in love and she told us that they could afford it and that she wanted to sign the papers. Now fast forward… I have so far paid for the down payments on DJ and photographer because she “doesn’t have the money”. When the first payment for the venue came along she hounded me to ask my Father what he was contributing because again, she “doesn’t have the money”. Before we signed the contract for the venue she told me she could afford this and that she wanted to give me a beautiful wedding. Now that payments are coming due shes claiming she needs help from my Dad. This is frustating to me and my Fiance because we wouldn’t have picked this venue if it was truly out of budget, but now we’re stuck and she keeps putting me in the middle. Telling me to ask my Dad if he’s paying X amount.
Anyway, back to the dress. I ask her when we can go pick it up, and she proceeds to tell me that if my Dad doesn’t help with the next venue payment (due next week) that we won’t be able to go get my dress for three weeks. At this point I’m done. I emailed both of them asking for them to discuss monies and to leave me out of it. As for my dress, I plan on picking it up on Saturday without her… therefore I will have to pay for the balance.
I’m just so frustrated because I didn’t ask for a wedding. Did I want one? Of course, what girl doesn’t? But I didn’t think it was possible and I was fine with it. She offered and told me a budget that I have adhered to, and now she keeps saying she can’t afford it. We’re about 6 months away from the day, and I just know this will not be the end of money stress from her. If she couldn’t afford this, why would she tell me she could??? Vent over.