(Closed) MY DRESS IS IN! and im only about 60% excited… pics inside!

• BeeG35
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

ok so i got my dress, and have been trying to rein in feelings of despair, just like alot of other bees when they went through this step in the dress process.

i actually dont know if i should go ahead and have one alterations visit now (at least a consultation) and a couple more in late Sept/early Oct, or just wait another 2-3 months entirely and see how my weight fluctuates before even having the first visit. 

im happy with the dress overall. its a lovely bright white, and i had an extra inch of neckine material added for bust coverage. it is relatively a good fit, though i really expected it to be large when it arrived. 

this dress has a unique cut to it, and of course, it doesnt fit me (yet) the way the sample did. im not under any misconceptions about the difference between samples and new gowns, so i know that this dress IS NOT the sample dress even tho it is the same materials arranged in the same pattern. im trying to come to grips with the fact that it might never look like the pics of myself i fell in love with. but i am a huge perfectionist so i wont be happy until its PERFECT!!

right now, i think it is too big in the hips a smidgen, and it is causing it to rise up above my hip bones and causing a weird waist shape, and it makes my hips look WIDE. it is causing bunching in the back by the buttons, and an overall misshape to the thigh region as well. its not smooth and fitting like i want it to be. YET.

they made me take off my strapless bra, which i hate the look of it without one, so ill have to fine a thin one i guess?

i bought some ‘love my assets’ by spanx shapewear and it didnt help in the least. does anyone know if actual ‘spanx’ spanx will control tummy better?

i hate the huge fold in the chiffon ruching that is noticeable in the bust area. this was one of my biggest fears that it would come in like this. i really hope it can be delicately detached, straighted out, and reattached.

the petticoat was way too full from being rolled into a ball in the storeroom so i feel like it made the dress a smidgen too short with it on. i really want to wear 4 inch heels, so i hope i dont have to forego the petticoat to make sure the dress touches the ground. i really dont want to make the sacrifice in shoes. but we will see.

plus there was some issue with my veil that has yet to be figured out.

heres some pics and a step towards me being able to visualize myself more on my wedding day. 

any support, ideas, tips, and tricks welcomed! thanks bees!

without a petticoat at first:

and with a petticoat now:

and older pics for good measure with a great angle, and i might have weighed 5 lbs less maybe:

• BeeG35
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPanda99:  thanks! thats y i dont like it without a strapless! it lets my boobs spread all out and then the neckline cuts into the flab making it look way too tight. its actually very comfortable in the bust, and the extra inch added was supposed to bring the bust of the dress up instead of my boobs weighing it down and folding it downward. it is actually a bit big in the hips and so im hoping just a small alteration can bring in the sides a smidgen. 🙂

• BeeG35
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@Overjoyed:  thank u!

i am actually one of the only brides ive seen photograph this gown with a petticoat. so i know the dress can look good without it. i just dont know…im really torn, i think because my bust is large, and hips look wide, it almost needs a flare at the bottom to even out the curvy silhouette. otherwise its like ‘hello hips and boobs!! wheres your face or your dress??’ LOL.

it doesnt look lifeless and droopy without it?

ive got some thinking to do about the petticoat i guess.