(Closed) My dress is in and now it looks different! HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I’m going to be really real with you, I see no real difference. You look great in both! I think you should just give it a few days before you do anything drastic…

Post # 3
4509 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The bottom of the second dress does not look as fitted.  Maybe it can be taken in?

Post # 4
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

You look beautiful in that dress!  I do see the difference though… can you ask them if there’s anything they can do?  Can you get the original one you tried on?  Maybe a steaming would help??

Post # 5
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I don’t see that big of a difference either. I agree with the bee above, maybe make the bottom part a little tighter? And you can also consider decreasing the volume of the poof?

Post # 6
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t see a difference at all. Looks great!

Post # 7
1595 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly  – you look great in both…I think I see what you are upset about though…the ruffling on the second starts up higher than on the first and it is giving you a larger illusion…it isn’t much, but I think that is what is bothering you

Post # 8
1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The sample dress is only more fitted toward the bottom of the gown, did the clip you near your butt? That’s the only different I see and if that’s it, they can take the dress in. Otherwise it looks like same and you look great in it. 

Post # 9
2452 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it needs to be taken in a little bit and then it will look perfect. The reason the bottom looked flowy-er on the sample is because it’s broken in, worn, and older. Brand spankin’ new, it’s always going to be a little stiffer. Get it taken in and you won’t notice a difference.

Post # 10
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

The only thing I see is that the second one doesn’t look as fitted. You look beautiful though! And the dress is gorgeous! 

Post # 11
1789 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The dress is looking a little loose around the lower abdomen and upper thigh area, and a bit tight around the bust. Alterations can help with this – tighening up the bottom and letting out the top. Even removing the bust cups can help sometimes. I don’t think you look fat though. And you are petite! So you can’t expect to look super tall. I think you look proportional and your height is perfect for the dress as it is. Stop worrying about those things 🙂

Something my alterations lady at the bridal salon told me (and also something I heard on SYTTD!) really rang true. When you first try on the dresses in the salon they have had many brides in them and have had a chance to stretch out and form to a real body. They are also likely being pulled tight with clamps so you will see a very stream lined and tight-fitting look when trying on the sample dresses. In reality, you have to walk in a dress, sit down, eat, dance, etc. So the dress may look a bit different in real life than in the magazines, on models, and when pulled tight with clamps on you.

Have you had any alterations done to the dress yet?

Post # 12
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I also think you look great in both! I understand the sentiment though because I had a similar feeling about my dress. The soft lighting in the first picture is much more flattering than the harsher light in the second photo – do you think that could be affecting your thoughts on it? 

Also, did they have the dress pinned on you in the first photo? I bought mine as a sample, so I went home with the dress I tried on – it’s basically my size, but was pinned a little in the shop to make it more form-fitting – I really feel like I looked much longer/leaner when the dress was pinned tight than when it’s on me without the pins at home, but I think that will be mostly fixed by alterations and I think it probably will be for you too. I agree with others that if you got the bottom tightened a bit it would probably look more to you like your first try-on did.

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Post # 13
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You look stunning in the top photo, I agree, and the second photo is less flattering. Are you 100% sure it’s not just the lighting, the camera angle, your pose etc?

You look similar to me. I’m also 5’2ish and I’m normally 130 (I’m losing at the moment haha). But often petite doesn’t work on me, so I see where you are coming from. You look a bit busty like me and the top of the dress seems to be pulling down a bit as it’s a little short, which is where the problem is. Probably as you have a largeish bust on a longish body.

Also, I can see the skirt flares out at a lower point in photo 1 which makes you look slimmer. Bear in mind, though that if you order the ‘normal’ size, you will lose some of the ruffles, so it will be a trade off. Maybe it’s nicer to have more ruffles??

There’s no harm in asking the shop if they can reorder in ‘normal’ proportion.

If it’s ‘no can do’, then  I would definitely reposition the belt an inch or so higher- I find that slims me quite well. With many wedding dresses I tried on I felt the belt sat too low on me even though I’m short.

If it’s curlier, it’s because it’s newer and hasn’t been tried on. I tried something similar and was told think it can be flattened out or will naturally drop.

The hip/tummy part just needs adjusting inwards- no big problem.

Overall, I don’t think you’re being picky. I can definitely see the difference, but I’m sure it is more noticeable to you than anyone else.

PS. I ordered a quite similar dress to yours but I’m prettty envious of yours. It’s so amazing. Is it Allure?


Post # 14
2168 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

I would say that lighting and the camera angle are playing a big part here.

The bottom will be curlier because it’s new – it hasn’t been on and off the hanger and brides to be countless times. I’m sure you could probably fix that just by messing with it a little.

FWIW – I think you look gorgeous in both pics, not short OR fat. You might be able to get them to nip it in at the waist a little bit? That might make it look a little more like the top picture 


Post # 15
1703 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I can’t really see a difference other than the angle of the photo, which can really change the look of anything. Since it was ordered in petite, does the floofy part start higher than the sample? It could just be cutting you a little differently and not giving you as much “leg” as the one in the regular length. What you have is how the dress is intended to look, proportionally.

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