My dress is ruined after alterations

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Not sure what I’m supposed to be seeing in these pictures…..

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

Horrified! O.o

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Can you take someone in with you for moral support on Tuesday?  If it’s not fixed, have a game plan as to what you want them to do (I would be pitching for full refund of alterations and dress cost if it’s truly ruined).  Be calm but put your foot down and don’t let them fob you off.

In the interim, can you get anything off the rack as a back up?  ModCloth has some GORGEOUS wedding dresses and they ship very fast, plus they have free returns if you don’t end up needing it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1993

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I can only imagine how panicked and upset you feel. The good news is I can see your dress in the mirror and it doesn’t look bad. Hopefully, the seamstress can fix her mistakes. I would definitely do as the pp suggested and take someone with you for moral support on Tuesday. I’m terrible about standing up for myself, so I would need to take someone with a stronger voice that could advocate for me. I would also be on the phone/online trying to find a back up seamstress in case things don’t look right on Tuesday.

Again, I’m so sorry that you feel everything is going wrong. Just remember that your guests probably won’t notice the mishaps. For example, my wedding was in teal and white. My cake arrived and all of the flowers on the cake were dark pink instead of white. Thankfully, the venue set a gorgeous vase full of fresh flowers in the same shade of pink as the cake (they most have been left over from the prior event) on the table next to my cake. It looked planned, and more importantly, it looked beautiful. Truthfully, it probably looked better than what I had picked out.

I know that is minor compared to a dress mishap, but my hope is that your dress will work out just as well. Good luck bee. I really hope the best for you.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Aw, I’m so sorry. I hope things work out. It sucks when things are going wrong/stressful this close to the big day! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Can you take it to a different seamstress? You could phone about and see if anyone else is available and if so then call the original woman, tell her you are coming to pick it up and not to touch it in the meantime. Bring your most confident friend or family member with you for support. That’s what I would do.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Why couldn’t you take a photo of the chest area? I can clearly see that the dress is fully buttoned up in your photo…

Post # 10
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Helper bee

This reminds me of a situation involving a bridesmaid dress.  The seamstress decided to change careers and wanted to do alterations as sewing was a hobby. It was an honest and sincere try but she did have not the skill and butchered a bridesmaiddress.  Fortunately, an experienced seamstress took the dress in the day before the wedding and charged up the ying yang for an all nighter and literally took apart every seam to make it work andred did the dress.  The lesson is go to a reputable seamstress to do your work who has experienced with evening/wedding gowns and beadings.   But lessons don’t help now.  Consider your options – go to another seamstress and the costs and consider another dress.  Yes, it will cost money but  to take away the stress and make your day even a $1000 or $1500 isn’t much.  I meaning our  lives we surely waste money on the latest gadget we will use all the time whether it be a kitchen blender, food p rocessor, food dryer or a jigsaw or auger or whatever. 

 

And try to be positive.  You are getting married!!!! Smile.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I honestly would not have noticed had I not read your explanation of it in the second post. I would suggest scrapping that tailor, and go to someone else, and explain your concerns. Do your research before and cough up the money to have it fixed. I don’t think you need to find a new dress. The straps are pretty but the seamstress did bunch them up which I feel could be fixed. Breathe – it will all be ok and you will be a beautiful bride even if you wear a basketball jersey down the aisle. Don’t worry so much. 

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