Post # 1
Maybe looking for some comfort here. I bought my wedding dress last summer for our wedding this October. It’s a separate corset and custom skirt with really pretty beading.
Initially, I loved it. But since the skirt had to be mocked up, when the real one came in, I became less sure. It was poofier than I remembered. Worst, it doesn’t fit. The shop assured me that they had “rounded up a size” and if anything, it would be a bit big. But when I picked it up, it was so tight I could barely breathe. I should have insisted they send it back, but I thought I could lose a couple pounds and it would be fine.
Fast forward to now, and it doesn’t even zip. I’ve gained a total of 5 pounds and am pretty athletic, so normally I wouldn’t care about the weight. I’m very happily a 6/8, but I looked up the waist measurement for the dress and found that it’s the equivalent of a 2 at banana republic or gap. I’ve never been a 2.
Now the dress makes me feel horrible about myself. I’ve started cutting back calories to try to lose around 10 pounds, which is what I estimate will be enough to breathe and sit in the dress. But it’s just become this symbol of sadness and is ruining my self esteem that I can’t even zip my dress.
For brides that have had sizing mishaps, at what point did you throw in the towel and just have the dress let out? My wedding is the end of October and I’m targeted losing the weight by mid September but I’m not sure if I can lose it all and how I should time alterations.
Pic above is when I ordered the gown (June 2016).
Below is when I picked it up:
When should I have it let out? Should I have a layer of tulle removed from underneath to better match the shape of the dress when I tried it on? I feel like the hips are too poofy.
Is it even pretty?
Post # 2
Wow, that is a stunning dress! I think you look gorgous and your waist looks TINY! I actually think it’s even more flattering now than when you originally tried it on. But it’s true that samples are worn and tend not to be as stiff as a brand new dress, so I’m sure if feels different. If you cant breath, you should let it out so you are comfortable! You could also have tulle removed if you want it less poofy, but I think it looks incredible as is!
Post # 3
You have 3 months, totally doable.
Im not sure what exercises you are doing, but pilates would help alot with an athletic build.
I have a meal plan from my trainer if you need it.
Post # 4
Its soo pretty! And I love the veil with it.
Just get it let out. 10 lbs is a lot, and you’re quite slight already! You might even end up gaining weight will all the stress of trying to lose it, its just not worth it. Get it let out an inch or two, continue your healthy lifestyle and you’ll be fine.
For the puffiness, I dontthink it actually looks that much bigger, however the samples are worn quite a bit so are always a little bit different than the actual dress. You could probably take out some of the layers, or even just wear it a bit and have it steamed. It will probably ‘calm down’ the pouffiness.
Post # 5
One, I think the dress is gorgeous on you and I did not notice any weird poofiness. A brand new dress will almost always be “poofier” than a sample one at a shop…those have been tried on way more!
Two, let out the dress! You do not need to stress yourself out making sure you can fit in the dress. Seriously, you look fantastic in it!
Post # 6
Its beautiful and your shape is fine. Just let it out and all will be fine.
Post # 7
Girl, get it let out now! Don’t spend the happy months leading up to your wedding hangry and hanxious because you’re trying to lose weight you don’t need to lose.
Post # 8
I’m thin and athletic but if I try to lean out for something in particular, I ALWAYS fail and gain weight. The pressure of wanting to be leaner always stresses me out and I wind up eating more. Its crazy. So, that said, stop putting pressure on yourself!! The dress is GORGEOUS and looks absolutely amazing on you! I love it! Just let it out and be done. Stop thinking about it and stressing and you will go back to your normal self. You look stunning!!
Post # 9
Let it out. I bought my dress off the rack and it fit…I lost about 10 pounds before my actual wedding day and my dress still fit. So, you could lose the weight and it still might not fit! Don’t stress yourself out.
Post # 10
The original picture is beautiful! I would get it resized and let this whole saga end. The last 10 pounds are the hardest to lose, and most people struggle to lose 1 pound a week. You’d be cutting it close. Plus you should never change your looks for a clothing item. I would also take some tulle taken out.
Post # 11
I would just let the dress out – your waist looks tiny in the latter pictures but if you can’t breathe and you can’t eat, you’re going to be miserable leading up to the wedding and on the day of. I’ve also seen brides look like bobble-heads when they starve themselves so that’s not good either.
Post # 12
Get it let out now and stop stressing – you don’t need to be unhealthy just so a dress can fit when they clearly got the wrong size. Regarding the poof, I think it looks great in pics. I do know that with my dress I was constantly wondering about the poofiness (swing dress with crinoline) but it was mostly because I was looking down at myself – when I’d see me in a mirror, it always looked fine, but man does it look huge when staring down.
Post # 13
It looks gorgeous! Just get it let out a bit so you feel comfortable.
Post # 14
Oh, its a lovely dress. I agree with everyone else. Have it let out. You don’t need the added stress along with EVERYTHING else that is going to happen. You look great in it btw. I couldn’t tell it doesnt fit.
Post # 15
A bee on one of my posts told me that my similarly slightly tight dress will stretch as the day goes on.
Your dress is not too poofy