- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Okay I really don’t know what to do anymore!!! I know you will all want a pic which I will post but I don’t have it on my computer right now. Here’s the scoop;
My fiance went on his own to get my ring. We never went and looked at rings and he always thought that the man should be able to choose what he wanted for his wife. I did however tell him a couple times that I didn’t care for rings with a plain band and one single stone. I liked the three stone. Meaning one larger in the middle and smaller on the side.
SO he proposed and I got a three stone ring. To be completely honest, it’s not all that big which is OK I actually LOVE the low profile because I hate it when my rings get snagged going in my pockets, etc.. So that part is fine. The part I don’t care for is 1) it’s really dainty on my looong fingers so I prefer a thicker band. 2) the three diamonds are the same size but the center is slightly raised.
At first my main focus was the fact it’s such a thin band. Like I said I have really long fingers so it looked really small on me. When I showed people my ring, I got “it’s cute” for a reaction from one. Overall I never got a “wow, that’s really pretty” and yes it bothered me. SO after the ring had to be cut off (another story), we went to the jewelers for repair. The jeweler he bought it from offered a trade for anything he had in the case. Then he started pulling rings and there were only one or two that I even liked and then he said they’d be another $1000+ in addition to what was already paid. Well, I really didn’t want to spend that much more but even more so it did NOT feel right to give away what my fiance picked out for me. I loved how mine sparkle I just wanted a thicker band.
In the end, the guy wasn’t much help so we decided to go to a mall jeweler. Again, we looked at other rings and looked at using my diamonds in a different ring. Then it was an additional $2000. I was feeling stuck. Then the lady showed me two thin pave diamond bands with a V shape. She suggested I add one to the bottom for now and then use the other for the wedding band. I tried them on and Wala it thickened my band up! I ended up spending an additional $1500 total with them fixing my ring, etc.. but I left happy.
Fast forward…daily I look at my ring and I’m not in love with my ring. It doesn’t help that I live on this site with GORGEOUS rings and people that are so in love with theirs. I want that feeling! I showed my girlfriend my ring for the first time and she likes it with all three bands but she too said yeah without the additional band your e-ring looks like a band.
Weeks later, I had taken my ring off at work and set it on my desk. A co-worker was at my desk and picked it up. She said it would make a really pretty right hand ring. Uggh!! So my feeling all along about it looking more like a band than an Engagement Ring is confirmed once again.
A month ago my mom had given me my diamond ring that my grandma had given me before she passed. It has one single diamond I believe to be the same size as the three on my ring. I mentioned that maybe I should have that put on my ring and make a square out of the four so it looks like an e-ring. My mom said you should’ve just sold your ring and gotten what you wanted. Well that didn’t feel right but here I am trying to make mine into something I love and it’s costing me a lot of $$
Last night my fiance and I talked about because I was so upset about what the girl at work said. He said we’re just going to have to pay off the two bands and sell your ring so you can get what you want. I don’t WANT to sell my ring, it was a gift from him and I love that, I just don’t love the ring as an engagement ring. I would love to keep it for my right hand but I don’t think we should be spending that much money and me having two rings.
I feel like crap, I’m embarrassed at what a mess this has all been and I don’t know what to do. Right now here are my options along with the pros/cons
1. Keep what he gave me, screw what others think, deal with it and upgrade down the road (I’d have what he wanted me to have- we wouldn’t have to spend anymore $ but I’d always have this feeling about my ring and it eats me up)
2. Look at replacing the center stone with a little larger one so it looks more like an e-ring (I think it would look more like an e-ring and still look like the ring he gave me but I’d still have the small band issue and I don’t want something that’s going to snag and drive me nuts)
3. I could see about adding my grandmas stone and making a square. (I think it would help the look and add something special of my gmas which is cool since his ring will include his gpas- but I have NO idea what it would cost and what it would end up looking like in the end)
4. I could pay it off and try and sell it and get something I want. (I doubt I’d get even close to the $ we’ve put into it and I cant imagine putting up for sale something special that he gave me and it would certainly hurt him)
5. I could keep it for my right hand and get another (that seems wrong, selfish, materialistic to have two rings and it would cost us a lot of money)
HELP!! I really don’t know what to do but I’m honestly tired of it being an issue. I get so jealous on this site reading how everyone thinks their rings are perfect for them. I just want to feel the same way.