(Closed) My e-ring doesn’t fit on my right hand…what to do during the ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I stand by my opinion of leaving it on the left hand. I got a little preachy about this last time, which basically amounted to, "Blah blah blah the engagement ring is the first half of a promise, the two rings belong together, etc., etc." But really, I think they do – the engagement ring should be just as much a part of the ceremony as the wedding ring! They go together! Neither one should be taken off!

Ok. I stop now.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mine doesn’t fit on my right hand either, AND my poor Fiance has to struggle to put my wedding band on if my e-ring is already on.

I think my mom’s going to wear it for me. It just slips on much much easier if my finger is all nakie

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If that was the case, I would leave it on my left hand and have him put the wedding band on top. Then when I get the chance quickly switch them. Or you can take it off before right beforehe puts the wedding band on and then slip it on top. Done 🙂

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

Well, the way I see it, the marriage (symbolized by the wedding ring) is the culmination of the commitment that the two of you make to each other. But this commitment didn’t begin on the wedding day, it began much more gradually over the course of your lives together. So on the one hand, you could look at the engagement ring as symbolizing your past and the wedding ring as symbolizing your future, in which case the joining of the two on your finger is a very romantic representation of the merging of your love – both yesterday’s, today’s, and tomorrow’s.

Alternately, you could look at the engagement ring as being the first half of the commitment – not just the commitment to get married, but to love and honor and cherish each other for the rest of your lives. In this case, I wouldn’t think of the engagement ring or the wedding ring as standing on their own, but as being two halves of a set that belong together. In this case it doesn’t make sense to remove the engagement ring before the ceremony, and taking it off seems to "demote" the engagement ring to something of less importance.

Again, this is all symbolic, and you don’t have to read into it this deeply. Also, like EJS said, sometimes it just isn’t convenient to have the engagement ring on during the ceremony!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

i had my ring resized to fit on my right hand.  

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’ll be keeping mine on my left hand. Mr. 365 wants it that way, and it already fits that hand perfectly, so why not?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I left my Engagement Ring on my left hand because I wore my "something blue" on my right hand.  It worked out perfectly and I guarantee you, no one at my wedding even noticed.  Remember that when you walk down the aisle, you will probably be holding your bouquet with your left hand.  So the only person that will see your Engagement Ring during the ceremony is your husband and your minister -no big deal! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I gave it to my mom and she gave it back right after the ceremony.  I had a blue topaz right I wore on my right hand.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

i kept mine on my left and switched my wedding ring and my e-ring afterwards.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I wore my engagement ring all day before the ceremony and during the ceremony.  I was glad I did, it picked up in a lot of pictures.  A little detail that others might not notice, but I did.  He just put my wedding band on top of my e-ring during the ceremony and then I switched it while we were signing our marriage certificate after the ceremony was over, but before we took any detail photos of our rings together.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I tend to agree with CellarDoor about the importance of the engagement ring. If your ring doesn’t fit on your right ring finger, does it fit on another finger (left or right hand?) That way, it is with you, and it won’t be off your left  ring finger long enough for anyone to notice or for it to feel weird. 

I wore mine on my right hand during the ceremony (switched it right before I walked down the aisle), and then, after we exchanged rings, our priest said this:

 <span style=”font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; font-size: 12pt”>The engagement ring is a symbol of promise and intention. Now the intention is realized and the promise fulfilled. Groom, please place the engagement ring on Bride’s finger over her wedding band to symbolize that the love that brought you together will always protect and sustain your marriage.

<span style=”font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; font-size: 12pt”>and then it was perfectly natural for my husband to move my engagement ring off my right hand and slide it onto my left. It ended up being one of my favorite parts of the ceremony.

<span style=”font-family: ‘Times New Roman’; font-size: 12pt”> Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@august15bride: I found it when I was researching writing our ceremony. Unfortunately, I no longer remember where I found it, but I’d never read anything like it before either. If it works for you, go for it!

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