Post # 1
The ring that was given to me on our engagement is one that’s been in the family for a while. My fiance and I are both students, he’s working on his 2nd degree so we appreciated the fact this ring was given to us rather than him trying to scrape together enough money for a decent ring. Our initial plan was to get matching big, bold wedding bands like these when we actually get married. But I’m starting to have second thoughts. I really am getting attached to having a big sparkly rock on my finger…but in the style I like.
My fiance literally couldn’t care less. He knows nothing about this kind of thing and is happy if I’m happy. My mom (who’s family the ring is from) doesn’t care at all. She was happy to give it to us as a “stand-in” of sorts, but knew it wouldn’t be my ring forever. It’s just that everyone has seen this ring. The rest of our families, friends, coworkers, etc. and I feel so odd just showing up one day with a totally different ring. Is that weird? IDK what to do.
Post # 2
People ‘upgrade’ their erings all the time. I don’t think it’s weird if you reset the ring you have, or get a different one someday.
Post # 3
I think it is totally fine to do that, especially if everyone involved is fine with it too! You’re the one who has to wear it forever, who cares what other people think 🙂
Post # 4
You don’t have to be stuck with it. Upgrade later and don’t worry about what anyone else says. I love my ring but i’ve already told DH I’d like to have another (gemstone this time) ring to wear in place of my sentimental ring when we are out of town or at a show or something. I’d also like another fancier ring later on as well. I’ll still keep and wear my original ring because it has sentimental value but i’d also like to be able to switch them out and around depending on my mood or where I am/what i’m doing that day.
Post # 5
I am typically not one for upgrading your ring, but this ring… wasn’t bought with you in mind. It was bought with someone else in mind. I dont think it is weird that when the time is right you want your fiance to buy You a ring, for you, with your taste in mind.
Just give the ring back to the family when the time comes and I think you will be fine …. just obviously don’t do something horrific like trade the ring in for a different ring.
Post # 6
Gosh I think it’s more unusual today for a woman to wear the same engagement ring all her life without adding to it updating are upgrading. Time style and financial situations change so you should do what makes you happy no guilt 👍🏻
Post # 7
Nope, not weird. Go with what makes you happy. Sounds like you have everyone’s support.
Post # 8
I doubt people around you are going to pay as much attention to you having a different ring one day as you think. But if/when anyone asks it’s a simple answer to give, that was a stand-in ring from your mom that you had and this new one is what your husband was able to give you and you couldn’t be happier. Case closed 👍
Post # 9
I honestly don’t think people will notice as much as you think unless they are VERY close to you. I never look at other people’s rings.
Post # 10
Times have changed.. women have options, get upgrades, etc.. or wear more than 1 set. Have fun with the next e-ring chapter!!
Post # 11
I think it depends on culture here… in the UK people tend to keep their ring, americans often seem to ‘upgrade’ but I find that strange, surely that ‘upgrade’ is not your engagement ring (which is any ring that was given for the engagement) but rather just an expensive new ring
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
this, you don’t upgrade in the UK really. My mind had the same engagement ring since she was 17, so 41 years. I honestly wouldn’t ever upgrade because for me personally it’s about the ring he chose and the time he proposes and nothing can ever change the attachment to that ring
Post # 13
Wish you posted a pic of the “stand in ring”
Post # 14
Not weird at all. Get something you like. You don’t need an engagement ring. If it’s not to your taste, don’t get it. Just a hint: those rosegold rings are becoming dated quickly. Get a classic plain band and add a stone later.