(Closed) My E-ring is not the ring I want to wear forever

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

People ‘upgrade’ their erings all the time. I don’t think it’s weird if you reset the ring you have, or get a different one someday.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think it is totally fine to do that, especially if everyone involved is fine with it too! You’re the one who has to wear it forever, who cares what other people think 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You don’t have to be stuck with it. Upgrade later and don’t worry about what anyone else says. I love my ring but i’ve already told DH I’d like to have another (gemstone this time) ring to wear in place of my sentimental ring when we are out of town or at a show or something. I’d also like another fancier ring later on as well. I’ll still keep and wear my original ring because it has sentimental value but i’d also like to be able to switch them out and around depending on my mood or where I am/what i’m doing that day.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I am typically not one for upgrading your ring, but this ring… wasn’t bought with you in mind. It was bought with someone else in mind. I dont think it is weird that when the time is right you want your fiance to buy You a ring, for you, with your taste in mind. 

Just give the ring back to the family when the time comes and I think you will be fine …. just obviously don’t do something horrific like trade the ring in for a different ring.

 

Post # 6
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Newbee

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rusty15 :   Gosh I think it’s more  unusual   today for a woman to wear the same engagement ring  all her life without adding to it updating are upgrading.  Time style and financial situations change so  you should do what makes you happy  no guilt 👍🏻

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Nope, not weird. Go with what makes you happy. Sounds like you have everyone’s support.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I doubt people around you are going to pay as much attention to you having a different ring one day as you think. But if/when anyone asks it’s a simple answer to give, that was a stand-in ring from your mom that you had and this new one is what your husband was able to give you and you couldn’t be happier. Case closed 👍

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I honestly don’t think people will notice as much as you think unless they are VERY close to you. I never look at other people’s rings.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Times have changed.. women have options, get upgrades, etc.. or wear more than 1 set.  Have fun with the next e-ring chapter!!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I think it depends on culture here… in the UK people tend to keep their ring, americans often seem to ‘upgrade’ but I find that strange, surely that ‘upgrade’ is not your engagement ring (which is any ring that was given for the engagement) but rather just an expensive new ring

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

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btob17 :  this, you don’t upgrade in the UK really. My mind had the same engagement ring since she was 17, so 41 years. I honestly wouldn’t ever upgrade because for me personally it’s about the ring he chose and the time he proposes and nothing can ever change the attachment to that ring 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

 Wish you posted a pic of the “stand in ring”

Post # 14
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Helper bee

 

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rusty15 :  Not weird at all. Get something you like. You don’t need an engagement ring. If it’s not to your taste, don’t get it. Just a hint: those rosegold rings are becoming dated quickly. Get a classic plain band and add a stone  later.

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