My Ectopic Story

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Also, I was TERRIFIED of having another ectopic and that fear has gone away.  Time does help.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

bizzyteacher20 :  we haven’t started any infertility treatments yet. We have a separate issue that is making it hard to decide whether we should stop ttc naturally and go straight to IVF. Either way, I’m going to be 30 and we wanted to be done having kids by 30-32yrs and so we are ready to get going with things. 

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

bizzyteacher20 :  thanks! 

Has your doctor investigated your irregular cycles? I know mine was pretty good at getting to the bottom of it, despite the impatient hot mess I was at the time, lol. 

I wish you the best in your journey!

Post # 21
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Busy bee

bizzyteacher20 :  Hi bee, I’m so sorry to hear about your ectopic.  I had one in October 2016 and it was a heartbreaking end to a pregnancy we had been trying for for nearly 3 years.  So I totally get it… The highs of finally getting a positive pregnancy test, and the lows of so quickly learning that your pregnancy must end. 

My ectopic was detected at 6weeks, so I was given methotrexate, but it didn’t work for me (another heartbreaker…my little bean was thriving if not for the place it happened to implant on).  About a week and a half later (7w4d), my HCG was going up and up and up.  I was around the 5000 mark at that point when they decided surgery was necessary.  I had the surgery, they were able to save my tube, and thankfully my HCG returned to 0 about 2 weeks later. 

What I can tell you is that from my experience, the first month or so was incredibly hard physically (recovering from surgery, the emotional rollercoaster, not knowing what to expect in terms of healing, regulating your cycle, etc.).  But it does get better with time.  I found that right after my ectopic I was so anxious to get back on the horse and TTC again…but as time passed I accepted that this wasn’t the best idea and that I needed to let my body heal properly before trying again.  

While I am totally anxious to try again, I’m STILL scared that I’ll have a repeat ectopic.  My husband and I decided not to try until I had another HSG to check the patency of my tubes. You may want to consider that as well, especially since like me, you still have the tube and it must be completely healed before you TTC again.  

But like whitums : said, there is hope after an ectopic! (She encouraged me with this message at the time of my ectopic as well, and she was right!) We are now preparing for our first IVF cycle which wasn’t what I had hoped for when we were TTC, but in some ways is a huge blessing because the risk of a ectopic with IVF is low (around 1-2%). 

Sending positive vibes your way – take good care of yourself and know that in time, you’ll be able to try again.  Hugs xo

 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

bizzyteacher20 :  I am so so sorry to hear this. It is a very terrible club to join, but I am thankful there are others out there that I can talk to! It has been such a rough road for you and I can’t imagine the toll that must take on you emotionally. 

My story – got my BFP on DS’s birthday in October. A week later, I started bleeding and it was called an early miscarriage. I went in for betas to be sure they were dropped. They dropped once, then started rising again, much to my dismay. I knew it my heart that it wasn’t a viable pregnancy. Nonetheless, my doctor put me on progesterone and did an ultrasound. We saw absolutely nothing besides 2 cysts, which I had suspected. My numbers doubled twice, then didn’t two more times. I was rushed in for another ultrasound, which again saw absolutely nothing, good or bad. The doctor made the call and deemed it ectopic. On 11/21, I went for the methotrexate shot. My numbers dropped quick initally, but I am still sitting at 6.1. 

I had been all over the board emotionally. I grieved the loss of the pregnancy in October when I bled and then had to relive the nightmare. Then my beta hell continued and still continues. I have a wellness exam at the end of the month and we are going to do another beta to see if I’m below 2. In the meantime, my BFF got pregnant and I haven’t dealt with that news all that well. I’m happy for her, but it hurts to remember what I lost. And ectopics are so freaking scary and I’m terrified of another. However, we still plan to TTC next month if I’m cleared by my doctor. I got my first period and I’m currently on CD12 and think I’ll ovulate this week. 

If anyone wants to chat or needs extra support, don’t hesitate to reach out!

Post # 26
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Busy bee

bizzyteacher20 :  It all depends on what you are comfortable with! I wanted to know that my tubes were patent before TTC again because I want to minimize the risk of having to go through this again. I did my HSG and the results showed that my tubes were open, but in the meantime we’ve become eligible for some assistance toward the cost of doing IVF, so we are going in that direction instead (I have to take birth control pills to start the process, so we can’t really TTC on our own while we prep for IVF). 

My family doctor assured me that despite “scary stuff on the internet”, most ectopics are just bad luck and of those who’ve had ectopics (120 of her patients), none had repeat ectopics.  

Sending positive, healing vibes to you! 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would do the HSG just in case. You never know what can be going on in there. It would be nice to rule out any issues before potentially spending a ton of time ttc. 

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