(Closed) My Engagement Ring was a big disappointment

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 92
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302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

There are people in the world who have no food. They would find a discussion about engagement rings of ANY size ridiculous. The OP does have more financial resources and a larger ring than the average poster but that does not make her opinion any less valid than someone with a .50ct ring. I think she’s being treated unfairly based SOLELY on the size of her ring. 🙁

Post # 93
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232 posts
Helper bee

@Ringblues:  I’m kind of in the opposite situation as you haha.

FH wanted to spend almost triple the cost of my ideal ring. I’m just a simple gal! We’re both finishing up our degrees, and I’d much rather spend the extra $$ on spoiling the guests at our small/intimate wedding.

I can understand why you’d feel a little snubbed about the ring. However, don’t compare your ring to his first wife. This a completely new marriage. I’m sure he went all out because he thought “the bigger the better, this is it”!

2 carats is a great size to be honest. I don’t want to make you feel/sound ungrateful, but you’re marrying the man of you dreams. The ring is only a symol of that. You can always upgrade later on, and that’s what we plan on doing! I say tought it out, and just consider waiting for an upgrade maybe on your 10 year anniversary or something. I think it’s kind of wise to keep it low-key, that just reinforces you don’t need all the bells and whistles. 

I’m sorry you feel disappointed about your ring, but life is so much bigger than that. YOU are bigger than that. Don’t get caught up in how much $$ he spent, and who has the bigger ring. You’re both successful and in love, that seems like perfection to me 🙂

Post # 94
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

If it makes you feel better my SO has already told me that my ring will be crappy in comparison to his ex-wifes…but she also totally bled him dry and I would rather have nothing at all then have him dip into his retirement or something just to buy me something “better.”

It isn’t about the size of the ring…it is about the quality of the relationship…I know what we have is a million times better than what they shared, and no ring can top that feeling.

Post # 95
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@bklynbridetobe:  I hope that was a joke…

Post # 97
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@bklynbridetobe:  oh thank God lol

Post # 98
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You are totally coming off as a spoiled And entitled.  You brag about how much you have.  Well then go get yourself a shiny rock if that is all that is important to you and leave this man alone.  Wow just wow, aren’t you a little old to be this immature. 

 

Post # 99
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@bklynbridetobe:  Hahahhahaah, this cracked me up.

I don’t understand comparing yourself to an ex at ALL.  They’re divorced!!  Is that what you want to be?  I don’t even see how her ring came up in a topic of discussion unless it was an heirloom.

Post # 100
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@1inthechamber:  I disagree. I think any OP would get flamed about wanting a bigger ring than their finace’s ex. The fact that she’s whining about 2 ct vs 3 ct just makes it more nauseating. Everyone who lives in comfort, is healthy, with he love of their lives, etc. (presumably most Bees) needs a kick in the pants to be reminded of how lucky they are when they start placing too much value on material things, particularly when being concerned about one-upping someone else. Ugh!

ETA: and to echo another poster, it IS sad that she’s 40+, not 20 and feeling this way. Life should give people more perspective.

Post # 101
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

SHUT UP!!!! You started off all kinds of wrong posting this thread. Did you think that us peasants would feel bad for you, a millionaire?! Buy your own damn ring. Get a 7 carat, no one will know since you both are wealthy. You think you put up with a lot?! Think about living from paycheck to paycheck, trying to plan a wedding, take care of a child without any help financially from the scumbag ex-husband, etc, etc, etc. Take your rich people problems some place else, because it is falling on broke and deaf ears. I can’t stand females who always want to complain when they should be counting their blessings. Disgusting… Yell

Post # 102
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@Ringblues:  I don’t judge you, I think I would probably feel the same way if I was in your position. I wouldn’t neccesarily want a bigger ring than the exwife but I wouldn’t want a ring that looked like an insult either. 

Post # 103
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Busy Beekeeper

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@bebelicious1:  LOL Tell us how you REALLY feel, because I sense a little ambiguity in your post.  

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@MrsWe:  On what planet is a 2c ring and insult??

Post # 104
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Zhabeego:  I said that I could understand what she was feeling and why – I never said it was rational. Haven’t you ever felt strong feelings that you knew were immature and irrational but you felt them anyway? That’s the case here.

Especially when it comes to second marriages, it can be hard territory to tread and often does feel like you are competing in some way. Again, silly, but that’s how it can feel for some. 

I then went on to say that she should remember that he went for quality over quantity and to reframe her thinking. 

Post # 105
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Bee Keeper

This is so timely, because I was just complaining about how hard it is to wipe my ass with $50s instead of $100s! Ugh, amirite?!

Post # 106
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It looks like we could all use a break from this subject matter – I’m going to go ahead and close this one.  Maybe it’s time for a stretch break, coffee, breath of fresh air? 🙂

Hope your Mondays are going as well as Mondays can get!

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