(Closed) My (ex) boyfriend is giving me a chance to get back together, what should i do?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I move in or not?
    Yes, follow your heart : (3 votes)
    2 %
    No, listen to your parents : (121 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 16
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    4252 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    There’s a LOT going on here.  Sooooo much.  The fact that he is giving you an ultimatum that is on HIS terms AND he is making it seem to you like he is giving you “mercy”.  “I’ll drop everything to be with you if and only if you get a job.”  That is so gross.  Sooooo gross.  He doesn’t care about you at all.  He isn’t the one for you.  You will find someone else, I promise.  Now it’s time to RUN.

    Post # 17
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    1909 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    He dumped you, so if anyone needs to “prove” anything, it’s him.

    Post # 18
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    1515 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    snugglepuggle94 : I need to show him proof of a job offer near him BEFORE he finds someone else to date, and if I do he will drop everything to be with me, including moving in together.”

    Dafuq? Tell him to go eff himself.  But first, build a bridge and get over himself.  

    LMAO at this guy.  

    Post # 19
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    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Nope nope nope… He sounds like a total dick. If he actually loved you, he wouldn’t bring up the idea that he would want to date other women if you don’t get a job… What a manipulative jerk… Stay far away

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Run for the hills and never look back

    Post # 21
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Contingencies on providing specific kinds of documentation belong at the DMV. Not relationships. Ever.

    Post # 22
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    378 posts
    Helper bee

    Did someone seriously vote yes? Please tell me they hit the wrong button by mistake! =/

    Post # 23
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    1610 posts
    Bumble bee

    Just no. Why do you need to prove yourself? It’s not easy getting a job in general, let alone when you’re starting out. If he is determining it on when you find a job he isn’t worth your time and you can’t reply him. He is looking for someone else, that should be enough for you to be running for the hills. If you genuinely want to be with you he just would.

    Post # 24
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    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    No. He is disrespecting you with the ultimatum. What a prick. An ex is an ex for a reason bee. Find a real man.

    Post # 25
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    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    he’s giving me a deal- I need to show him proof of a job offer near him BEFORE he finds someone else to date

    <div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”>What the actual F?</div>

    Big fat nope.

    Post # 26
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    1608 posts
    Bumble bee

    Lol @ at you finding a job before he meets someone else… What sort of “deal” is that?

    Tell him to go blow himself.

    Post # 27
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    3169 posts
    Sugar bee

    It’s blind sided, not blind sighted lol 😉 it refers to something coming out of your blind side, like you have to check when driving. 

    And yeah, RUN. Nothing about this sounds good, least of which you thinking you can help him with his baggage. A healthy adult should deal with their baggage on their own. If they haven’t done that no one can help them

     

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    He sounds like a manipulative asswipe. And what happens if you get the proof but he’s ‘already found someone else to date’? Will he ditch her and ‘drop everything’ for you or will he say sozza you weren’t fast enough? 

    Either way he is a disgusting son of a bitch, tell him to go fuck himself. 

    Post # 29
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    1115 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

    Stay away from him, you deserve someone better and without ultimatiums 

    Post # 30
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    Oh hell no. This guy is reall piece of work and with all his demands. Do not get back with him. 

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