(Closed) my ex-boyfriends mom still wants me in the wedding, yes or no?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I still be a bridesmaid?



  • Post # 3
    5517 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    I say yes, I mean.. you must have formed a relationship with his mom during those 2 years… a strong enough one for her to ask you to stand up. If distance was the only issue his mom is prob thinking that you will get back together anyways, is there a chance?

    Post # 4
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    You only broke up a few days ago, so it probably hasn’t sunk in yet. By July, after you have both moved on more, it could be awkward. Do you plan to keep in touch with her in other ways? I would tell her that you’re honored but decline. If you’re invited as a guest, you won’t have to decide to go or not until closer to the date when you can see how things stand between you. What if you’re both dating other people by then? I just think it’s probably a bad idea to be in the wedding, in her pictures to be reminded forever, when you probably won’t be in her life in the future.

    Post # 5
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    that sounds so awkward. I’d say no if I were in your situation.

    Post # 6
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’d say no.  That is just going to make things awkward.  I definitely think that now it might feel like the right thing but by the time the wedding rolls around and things have settled you will regret it.  Also- what if he has a date to the wedding?

    Post # 7
    468 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Probably no just because it could get awkward! and I agree with MissMusic what if he has a date?

    Post # 8
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m not sure on this one… I’m sure you’ve formed a relationship with her and it may be tough, but are you going to diligently stay in touch with her between now and then? I think, also, because of the awkward factor, it may be best to decline.

    Post # 9
    368 posts
    Helper bee

    I think that you should tell her that you care for her greatly but that you can’t be in her wedding. I feel like in July you will feel a lot differently, and wouldn’t want to attend the wedding.

    Post # 10
    7769 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it just might complicate things, especially if you two still have feelings.

    Post # 11
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you need to have a heart to heart with her….it may not be the best option if your not going to be together then.  I would be honest with her about the situation and how you feel but respectfully.

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