Post # 76
So ill play nice in light of things, id ask for her contact info and message her on your own terms. If hes not willing to do that then its on him to sort out. In my mind that would be the fairest way to sort things out. If she really wants to know details the convo needs to be through you and her, and not him meddling in between.
Post # 77
chessplayer : Block, block, block!
Post # 78
For a fee sure. Your emotional labour is not free. I suggest starting at $250 paid upfront for a ten minute conversation with the wife.
If he doesn’t want to pay then he can kick rocks. You have nothing to gain here by doing this.
Post # 79
It’s possible the husband really is determined to turn over a new leaf and make amends, by being transparent and open. Maybe they are in counseling, though I can’t imagine anyone advising him to contact OP himself and OP would IMO be crazy to have anything to do with a request coming from him.
That said, what I think may have happened is the wife threatened to call OP and he thought he’d get ahead of that possibility by pleading sympathy. Then either she demanded the correspondence or he was desperate to show it to her in order to prove something. She probably doesn’t believe the relationship was 99% online or that they met only once.