(Closed) My ex is a pedophile.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@newcitylights:  Wow! I can’t imagine how you must be feeling! That’s awful… There are some things you can never really tell about a person. How icky… I’m glad they caught him! 

Post # 4
3574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am so sorry.  Thank god he is an ex!  A friend of mine was in a serious relationship (over 4 years) with a man who was arrested on pedophilia charges when she went away for a weekend.  She was so devastated.  The only thing she noticed was that he was not interested in sex.  

Post # 5
9492 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

well shit. Atleast you didnt marry him!

Post # 6
1033 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@newcitylights:  Yikes… that is so scary! I’m sorry, but just be thankful you aren’t still with him!

Post # 7
1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@newcitylights:  Oh I am so sorry!!!  People like that are very secretive.  You would have never known unless you found something.  Just be thankful for the dodged bullet!!!!

Post # 8
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@newcitylights:  *HUGS*  Well they’re exes for a reason (some reasons are better than others), just be glad that you didn’t settle down/have kids with him.  Sorry you had to find out something so horrible and disgusting, but at least the police have caught him and a few others now.

Post # 9
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


As another Bee said, thank your lucky stars (and God & Karma) that your relationship never went any further… you dodged a bullet for sure


Post # 10
9556 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well that sucks. I’d probably try to take solace in imagining that maybe he just had pictures of some 15 year old that looked like she was 20. But yeah. Sucky.

Post # 11
2300 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@newcitylights:  wow – very scary, BUT everyone is innocent until proven guilty, it’s possible that he is caught up in a sting by way of a roommate’s stuff/mistake, virus etc. it does happen, although obviously that is a very small percentage. 

i’m so sorry you had to read that, what a shock :/ it’s terrible to think that people that like live in our communities. 

Post # 12
9692 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@newcitylights:  There’s always three sides to a story – his side, their side, and the truth. I’m not excusing his behaviour, don’t get me wrong. However, I do see a huge difference between the folks out molesting kids and the folks who have some sick fetish and watch it. Yes, I do realize that without demand it wouldn’t be distributed but I’m not sure looking at one website makes you a pedophile. Just my opinion, not here to argue it. 

I can imagine it was a huge shock, but know there was nothing you could and no way you could have known. At least you didn’t have a kid with him. If he was truly a pedophile, a built in victim is often why they have kids to begin with. I’m sorry that you’re feeling so badly but it is absolutely not your fault and no reflection on you at all! 

Post # 13
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Gah! Consider yourself lucky that you got out of the relationship. Icky!

I once found out that a woman who I used to baby sit for went bat shit crazy and ended up killing another woman and cutting her baby out of her. Yeah, it really happened. When I saw the article I was in a state of shock. I shared meals, shopping trips and clothes with this woman! Insane.

Post # 14
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Yikes! Devils advocate, innocent until proven guilty, etc, but maybe they arrested everyone in the house because they share an Internet connection, and maybe it was a roommate only?

I can’t imagine, I don’t know what I’d feel in this situation. Definitely a shock!

Post # 15
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That is very worrisome and thank goodness you know now!  HOwever remember – you are innocent until proven guilty right? Maybe something in his depression or something triggered it or – who knows what – but at least its not you problem!

Post # 16
8044 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

You dodged a bullet. It happens. This is no reflection on you… I would try to put it out of your mind. It’s not like you were married for 30 years and just found out. It isn’t that hard to hide something like this if you’ve only been dating for a little while and don’t live together.

Like they say… you generally can’t spot a serial killer… they blend in. It’s not like you can recognize a pedo by their stereotypical creepy moustache either, you know what I mean?

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