- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I’m marrying a wonderful man on July 20th in the Bahamas. I’m the custodial parent of my daughter who will be 16 in early July. My Fi has lived with us for 2.5 years and is an amazingsoon-to-be stepdad. She can’t wait to be with us for the wedding, as my Maid/Matron of Honor. But now, my incredibly awful ex is appearinf to block her traveling with us by not signing a letter of consent.
I was married for 25 yrs. to this passive/aggressive bully and knew for years that we would end in divorce. Every time we had a fight he’d ask in a hopeful tone,”Do you want a divorce?” but he’d never initiate it so I could be the bad guy to the children. The divorce was final over 3 years ago and we’d been separated (but he wouldn’t move out of the house!) for nearly a year before that. It was a very difficult time and physical violence from my ex was becoming a concern. While separated and awaiting final orders, I met my the man who would eventualy become my Fiance.
My ex’s post-divorce behavior has said more about him than I could. He makes very good money but went months without paying child support. He agreed to maintenance because I had given up my career to raise children, but often refused to pay it even though both those items were in the court order. He took me back to court countless times even though I had no means to pay for it to change things he had agreed to. Last year it cost me $10,000 to go to court because he instigated another change in the agreement. He lost and the court ruled in my favor but didn’t order him to pay my legal fees.
Now I don’t know what to do if he won’t sign a consent for my daughter to travel out of the country to the wedding. I’ve given him until tomorrow to get it to me. The court ordered him last year to sign off on allowing her to just get a passport! My lawyer told me then that if he tried to block any travel that I could somehow get a court order over-ruling him, but I can’t get into thousands of dollars in that expense now.
This is ruining so much of my wedding happiness and I hate that he gets to affect any more of my life. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks for allowing me to vent 🙂